Slacker amd Steve - OPP: Porn Addiction 8/16

Wednesday, August 16th

00:19:12

Emily's boyfriend has a porn addiction that is effecting their relationship. He's bringing it into the bedroom, which is not only dulling his performance, but making her feel second best to what's on the T.V.  Is this a bad sign or is this normal behavior? What should Emily do? 

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And so where I'm from talking about addiction and addiction and her relationship and how it can be bad and I know Marty stepped in and by saying I don't know that this particular things and addiction you think you must miss more of a choice I think in some cases it is but because it is about addiction. This person would like to be disguised. Emily. PR guy you are disguised bomb what you tell us what's going on gonna sell up to speed more traditional. Here are different kind of could help one so my boyfriend. There with him a couple years. I think you treat carbon addiction to. Go there are adult movie can go well I hate all you guys. And it. I mean I am not really prudent about our country and I feel like you know are functional about it but it. He used on them played more and more and now he wants to bring would you peeing in two RI group life. And I if you are having trouble armed. Performing I got a power to compare. Well I do. Feel like I wouldn't be be because I don't know Europe's what was he. And I don't know what do what you do you could feel brick into. So she's not work because he's good mourn. He he's not in the closet about this or use what you've cost him watching. Adult films and stuff she's open with the fact exceed he's watching a lot of of pornography. And it leaves you only been open about Republicans there's been more more foreign devoted. And now unless you guys are doing something and not be crazy that he might have seen in a stone or whatever. She's having performance issues. Yeah and I couldn't. Armed. It doesn't feel would love for you when it ordered the ball back and any which the company called global should be wow. So I'd. Especially Corey Clark curly Q and could mean people are awake relationship imperial elections could muddle through boot boot barn. Royal funeral I ordered it won't really aren't well I'm gonna say this I started this would want attitude because I think people who say like. I'm addicted to pull Warren. Are you know it's a choice I watch I watch adult material. Not as often as I did before I was married and had kids or whatever but I but I could just so alcoholics anonymous as I could quit any time. If you quit on soldier to die I'm not yeah so I sang addiction to. I find the word it addict or addiction gets bandied about about certain things have seen correctly. Known for a little bit I was prepared coming you would win that argument but now that I heard your story. He doesn't eliminate it he's got seats it stronger than just a desire to watch if she. Is she doesn't get what he sees in the movies and his stuff doesn't work. Dad is starting to feel like more than just you're saying it's like it's a medically desensitized to. Jeanne do you problem. So I'm kind of worried about him but also about me compute order affecting how I feel about myself. And we are ranked. Okay absolutely. So you feel like Pete so he wasn't doing this just to spice things up which. I we kind of take offense a little bit but that's you're married you're allowed to talk to us up so anyway he basically he's cutting using your body. To work out these new maneuvers that he's he's watched on rye is assuming that you're into it too because Nora cup Ballmer doing new things in the bedroom but. I mean we've got our armed interest in exploring but I don't feel late. He connected me. If I mean yeah actually does him wanting to replicate pumping you need to admit that he has no connection to me and our country you know. If fact it's also has taught him what a lot more time in connecting with those actresses in the movies and does he play it while you're relating. This team does he want to AZ it. Or dizzy oh no no and are no record but more appropriate and so watches in the other room gets so. Why. It's sad that sounds like an addiction and I hate to say to some backpedaling myself to stats. Like I can honestly say. I would if if I were even halfway there I'd be like oh my god I know this hasn't likes you I don't know he's a good release you guys just dating right for a couple years. Are we preparing a couple years and I need to treat me Honolulu I'm being intimate with someone and I don't feel like speak fuel any connection you know moment. Yeah our deepest unit or tender caring and showing mosques. It is not a political general rule arm. And your arm Cree Cree Cree noise all the what do you do about here's the big questions. You love them. I mean I think I've become a bit but implement a bigger cook. The. It is but I mean here's saying this is something that I mean we're we're gonna try to do you help. But we can just in this OPP right now if you don't say you love or even the answer is buyout he needs to dial. So. People I mean except for public and camera but we re hungry we give Republican I'm like a cult of that group not expect to get along really well. We go on how to block on them that we have a lot of friends in common good luck comment conflict there are a lot of things going Primakov who are. They've been really typical. Well so if you do love them then we're gonna try to get you some help because. I seem to there's other people who then in your shoes there's men and women who had this thing. And I think it's clear Steve. You're gonna have to work. There is her her through this and Steve doesn't make any relationship is worth it worth any amount works if you love them I think this can be sentenced. But it's definitely not going to be easy just he's got a he's got a little race a brain full all. This is what I need to get to air I didn't fast to be in that thirteen year old boy who just is like marveling. At your beautiful girlfriend's body. And that's got to go back to being his drive and mice boo as opposed said. Watching. Four people in a room with them goats and a fire truck and hand grenade guides in late school you read the what do I know I don't I didn't printed I don't know who broke. Yeah all. I did it's more current because because the adults it was so easy to get your hands on now it's it's more common. So who knows he's a question that speech I mean because he decree you're pretty good my boyfriend didn't. If you think you are a problem. Mean I brought it up a couple hundred I don't feel a connection to him in the bedroom is for you so I don't know Blake. But you know and I didn't make a big deal that I didn't want public the big knock down drag out the Russian mole or or are you didn't seem to quite get it. No I remember concurrent. You so absolutely I think you said earlier Emily. You're just this piece of your just it's. Only during that time you out he's loving you when you're out to dinner right. See you we I don't think we yeah we get along really well. Guys he's certain the Benjamin knew an amusement park kick in Nazi include a place to connect with my partner type of thing. Out armed. Emily why do you hang tight and were dragging some advice. I got a recuse myself because I do watch adult stuff I know that I feel that I can stop at any time and I don't think it ever. I don't think I. It's ever affected me in the bedroom made my significant other feel like less of a woman see in that bright bear. Did that she doesn't wanna leave them grow and she's into opening new experimenting and stuff like that is just it it's government film. Always a little too far are you bring him back don't hurts if you can continue now. He somebody's so desensitized. So it's a peak wind out when you've been in war and then just are just going by and milk design regular life as boring this is what's yeah I gonna bullets whizzed over my head back glee so clearly come back. Ten he's had you lot. And if you help somebody threw porn addiction. Emily can really use your help. Shall. Guy the guy behind. Our. So I would and our relationship our warriors let a guy who asked if I expect it every single time we were together and miss you. And and try. I ended up having to end it because she didn't think he had a problem I. I brought it up from multiple times we tried different change and it just to I had and it because it looks such huge part of their relationship. Well you know it is everything else pretty. Yeah I allowed and we had a great time together we we got along great and then it got out swinging at pitches and it wasn't until quartet. And you couldn't. You couldn't help him through that he couldn't teach him do you try things says. I try every angle we iChat and productive going to docked there at everything you didn't want to do anything. It is hot anybody about it because obviously it's an embarrassing problem and it's. You can't think he has meant to help. But and you had to do which you had to do because you weren't getting what you need another relationship either I'm sure throughout the first female lead did that to me there. Actually we were each other expert. Move well maybe he's better now you go into another run at a conclude that all of Torre or. Four year. Emily is only years and you think this guy is the weirdness is probably enough of the reason if you get that didn't rock between the sheets you should you should leave. I mean if she doesn't think there and you play Kuwait actually creator is not willing to I would say that yeah it's probably time that it should know. Q not putting hit your immediate yeah plus had an. Yeah it's all him him him him. The independent women are very patient and tolerant. With guys you know issues and stuff but for years stay at stats yeah thank you for the advice Michelle. April. Yes yeah I what do you think. I think that they had to consider making eight spent eight wild night like Friday or Saturday night or even well. Where he can do what he wants to do she and to be wild and crazy and the other nice par there are lovemaking. I think I was really be concerned about is that several times you apps that she loved him. She kept going back Jew. She's great she's nicely this machine never read the. Al where. And she can have a lot of irons and everything which is what she kept going back to you with other guys. But it also will go to a back. In her mind it if she avoids making love but her on the other night and only wants all of. Only one example and you'll get your answer inside. If he's good to go in this wild nights and on impassioned nights it's a no no that's a great in April that is appreciate the call. Dairy. 88 guy but he thinks. I'm too I think you need slowly wean himself sop for the corn and I didn't mean exact same situation where. Go to college you know Alan literally getting any and then. In your relationship and I don't know what's going on Michael why can't perform. Less you know. And his people were looking for a man that you turned out you know. Eventually just once once the game. Once every other day. And then literally. The ratio this user of adult materials like you were watching it several times and act. Yeah yeah I was just mean not just college kid get to go more than you need so I had you know. Did marriages done you know. We knew then you were able to do with the real girl and I'm watching something on yeah. Exact NN Sunday on day what my once a week and Helio. Boca where you've. Frolic in your own playgrounds it's as if it. I mean you'll learn a little thing that would something very you know possible that aren't playing now. So much stuff online and in my normal day's best. No I know I've had to tell my child this is not ready for an even a night. You know when you watched you know a movie when they shoot a guy any legs and Mike real shootings don't look like dying and real relations don't look at the ethically I don't think I mean they can but you gotta be. Yeah if scare is the yeah. Yeah and this sort. It's a trial where in you know you gotta get him if he really can't run its relationship he's just got to kind. We he's got a Jelena and I know how to they being sort of well are calling and you are down. You guys can just go cold Turkey is annuals that bloom we can have value in India the back to justice Kathryn. Yeah I guy what do you think. You know kind of I can learn and I cannot about the ecological issue and I think I might have cut a guardian to her question what do you think. Now there may not be a whole lot that you can't get in mining and her mom because. I think they're excited that she has RDX. Mention that the hand that expressed her concern and he told her that he doesn't the other problem and that she doesn't seem to get ahead. And so it is an addiction I don't think so I think there's a big psychological addiction when he becomes hard Juliet with these adult film to Wear and augmenting his reality. And her relationship he has look her in the bedroom legitimately significant part of their relationship. Loom so she decides to leave him back could be moved the rock bottom wake up call that if it is tests and addiction you couldn't. Like snap him out of it did and started down the path of recovery. You know it's possible and I think you know she doesn't. A lot of hand and she doesn't want a train preserves their relationship and appreciation during the mention it to him again and talk to him about it but the fact that she'd already brought it up once previously and he didn't really seem to have that in the idea how it's affecting Hirsch and it. The problem. You know I think it's going to be hard and we all know that with Egyptian effort part of recovering from an addiction and recognizing their problem banks and he has to do that action be a long road and he had you Loren until we're through it won't agree on Indian very little corporate owned. You have to pause and is fluent in halfway I'm just long enough to benefit thank you for the Como brandy. I understand you have the science behind this addiction thing what is it. Did so well then reconnect with other people are body to release an indoor and deep thinker. Honest though if your. You're looking at one thing in this one day and are you to release an indoor and and when you go back here and now I think it is not quite as attractive or as appealing to at this Irish English your body not get that. Literally is maybe our best to hide your money and you want to put it on the first play. Good coale as she knew wean yourself possibly porn and didn't acted. Yeah Doris makes teacher like Pavlov dog teach yourself that this is the one I want endorphins from. I'm so tired of him at the peak in the answer to that is yes the main. When you get to the point that you're really excited you have to reconnect with the person that you're wet so open your eyes. Oh wow wow okay ice that's perfect so I almost never cause mass exodus saying a gay youth the color creed belief even when I'm making now tell you I knew you're that guy. I had no doubt that's you know I'm really not nice so see you guys and that's not me Eva. Yeah I and you are disguised as per your request to that you've been in this situation obviously. Yes he has definitely undoubtedly affect direct. I might have been and it didn't and I hate weekly co Q arm partners the democratic group. Intel and they can get butter. Our multi AP broad view of their recruits about well who are critics that. Report out our economy if they're. There's say there's fact that it can anonymous that you can go to weekly and that it's in the computer club marriage arm. He's normally getting hurt I am using normal but it's like was he doing the same word just wasn't intimate it was an act you were a player in Athens Tennessee in that was kind of Murat. While. Yeah I did pinpointed to an affair because eventually got Smart enough you're. Wow homeless. I'm not I could become a few current you don't mean and he okay good did you ever do them are harder and more exciting. And no good therapy that brilliant huge bear bit of problem and becoming more problems because you're a sophomore. Arm but there is help and I have a minimum group returner. More admit that they have a problem but there in my group. And they are learning how to shut down green and protecting him though because RB I would very probably term price. S arm and ideally you buy it. If you proactive enough that it doesn't have to hurt Il. And hopefully the boundary will help memorialize but it really the problem. And you also know he's not alone and not are going to get hole. Even a week we had some guys suggest weaning yourself off and insane if you watch it three times there watching to them why no. Now I don't know that I would not. You got they got to go through something called ninety days of the Brady. Bill Lawrence and yes. So well and if they're there I mean miracle like let Brett even ninety days isn't quite enough I mean there are a lot of speaker keeping in shame when you're now back. Com we can grow that denial comes from and go com even depriving them of men who they knew it. You know you're not alone and remember that you felt like our team and aren't like them for my wife admitted the future weekly. You don't feel like he curtain and and we are so great read about it in our marriage ever went before. While well congratulations and we do you really do appreciate your advice his arm you're the one he's been there. My namely it's what I said before. If you're willing to work there it is and go through all that but if he's only your boyfriend there is you've only been in a couple years you and I don't mean to the boil it down and that's what it is you gotta put little chips on a scale and figure out which way he imbalances and a follow your heart anything else you wanna say to Emily please do so over on the slacker and Steve FaceBook page.
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