She wants to date a guy that she gets along with really well…but she’s not attracted to him at all!
Yi guys! There's this guy that is a friend of a friend, and I have started hanging out with him – strictly platonic, but I think my feelings are starting to change. He is absolutely not my type. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm not physically attracted to the guy, but there is something about him. His personality, his interests, his sense of humor, just his way of "being" makes me feel drawn to him, and I don't know how to handle it. I guess my question is, do looks matter in love? And if I decide to pursue something with a guy who I am not physically attracted to is the relationship doomed from the start? Any advice would be great!
In this OPP, Slacker and Steve point out that if you have to ask if looks matter in love, then you should already know the answer. They also discuss how differently women would look at this situation versus how men would in terms of the importance of physical attraction in a relationship. Steve says that he has known a number of women whose personalities have attracted him to them as a FRIEND, but nothing more.
I think this is something that could be entirely dependent on the situation. Sometimes, as one caller pointed out, being attracted to someone's personality more so than their physical appearance is a lot more important in the long run. Not to be a total nerd, but I think they said it best on Doctor Who, "Sometimes you meet someone so beautiful and then you actually talk to them and five minutes later they're as dull as a brick? Then there's other people, when you meet them you think, 'Not bad. They're okay.' And then you get to know them...and they just turn into something so beautiful." Cheesy? Yes, very. But I think it still applies here!
How important do you think looks are to a relationship?