She came on the air live with us, but here is her email…
Yi! I let my fiancé pick where we were going to honeymoon so he could feel like he was a part of our wedding. He never said he wanted to be a part of the planning but I felt bad that he was disconnected. He did a ton of research online for the best deals to vacation spots. He found a great deal for a trip to Mexico. I started to read some of the reviews of the place and some of them weren't good so I pulled the plug on him booking reservations to that place. He wasn't happy. He said I gave him this one responsibility and now I'm taking it away. Was I wrong for giving him this one task if I knew I was going to overrule him eventually? Can a bride pull the plug on anything she wants?
Slacker feels she has made an illegal substitution, so to speak. Making him inactively involved in the start of their lives together totally wounded his ego. If Marie could see the future and knew imminent danger was going to occur at the place he had in mind, then Slacker thinks she did the right thing. She isn’t clairvoyant. Even though this guy is still willing to marry her, it is not the right way to start the marriage.
I think that more communication always helps when it comes to planning anything. That way, expectations are super clear. There is a lot less confusion and nobody gets hurt. He is a much to blame as she should be. If he touches base with her during the research process, she’s going to feel less anxiety about not being in control of this decision while still having input. Marriage is a two person agreement, start in the beginning and keep it simple from the get go!
Peace, Love and Good Happiness Stuff! – Ray the Intern