Are you really ever happy for an ex and their accomplishments? 2 of Steve’s ex-girlfriends have flourished since the breakup…and he can’t find it in his heart to be happy for them! Did your ex blossom and grow after you broke up with them? Did they become successful without you?
Every single person that has ever been with Steve suddenly has the albatross lifted off their shoulders and has ascended to the heaven’s…or at least become more successful. Steve claims that he is simply the catalyst for their greatness. Sometimes, he claims to root for them and wants to see them do better. He’s not wishing for greatness, which has been the case the majority of the time, just better. Other times, he breaks up with someone and the ex instantly falls into a phenomenal career that seems to come out of nowhere!
Slacker believes that being in a relationship with Steve can make it hard for a person to achieve their basic human needs let alone their potential. That belief alone leads him to question how successful the show would be if he was free of Steve. He realizes he would be a different kind of miserable, not any better off! As for any of his ex’s, he wants one in particular to soar to unbelievable heights! What about the rest? He doesn’t necessarily want them to fail, but stay the same or go down a little. In no way shape or form does he want the rest of the ex’s to be better off without him.
Can you root for an ex? Can you be happy for them?
I think we all have one ex that really tugged on the heart strings. They hurt you like no other human has. I have a “previous life experience” that I wish would never see the light of day. Caustic relationships have a tendency to end in disaster. That’s why we label them as caustic, right? What about the rest of my ex’s? Go for it ladies! Straight to the top is where you should be headed. If it wasn’t for you and the learning experience I gained from the friendship, I wouldn’t be the man I am today. Thank you.
Peace, Love and Good Happiness Stuff! – Ray the Intern
People collect the strangest things. One person that called in collects Holy Water! Another caller collects her eyebrows. Other items include salt and pepper shakers, toe nail clippings and action figures.
Steve collects action figures which are worth billions, so he says. Slacker thinks Steve’s collection holds no value. He’s accrued his collection ever since childhood. Kind of reminds Slacker of the 40 year old Virgin and the fact that the story line for the movie is loosely based on Steve. He plans to slowly sell the stuff and give the funds to his nephew. Steve figures if he just gives the stuff to him, he’s just going rack it or not care.
At first, Slacker only had his dignity to claim as a collectible, which Steve claims is tainted. He also had thimbles forced on him, as well as shot glasses. He is missing one of the shot glasses (Roosevelt) from his collection of Mount Rushmore.
What are some of the weird things you collect?
I collect customized golf balls with the graphic design of all the courses I’ve played over the years. They are all sitting in a bin. I will “eventually” display them when I find the right case or get around to making the table with a glass top that I’ve always pictured them calling home.
Peace, Love and Good Happiness Stuff! – Ray the Intern
She came on the air live with us, but here is her email…
Yi! I let my fiancé pick where we were going to honeymoon so he could feel like he was a part of our wedding. He never said he wanted to be a part of the planning but I felt bad that he was disconnected. He did a ton of research online for the best deals to vacation spots. He found a great deal for a trip to Mexico. I started to read some of the reviews of the place and some of them weren't good so I pulled the plug on him booking reservations to that place. He wasn't happy. He said I gave him this one responsibility and now I'm taking it away. Was I wrong for giving him this one task if I knew I was going to overrule him eventually? Can a bride pull the plug on anything she wants?
Slacker feels she has made an illegal substitution, so to speak. Making him inactively involved in the start of their lives together totally wounded his ego. If Marie could see the future and knew imminent danger was going to occur at the place he had in mind, then Slacker thinks she did the right thing. She isn’t clairvoyant. Even though this guy is still willing to marry her, it is not the right way to start the marriage.
I think that more communication always helps when it comes to planning anything. That way, expectations are super clear. There is a lot less confusion and nobody gets hurt. He is a much to blame as she should be. If he touches base with her during the research process, she’s going to feel less anxiety about not being in control of this decision while still having input. Marriage is a two person agreement, start in the beginning and keep it simple from the get go!
Peace, Love and Good Happiness Stuff! – Ray the Intern
A three year old and his father recently got kicked off an Alaskan Airline flight! The flight attendants had been by multiple times asking the little boy to put his seat belt on. The boy was fussy and the father kept ignoring the seat belt requests, so finally the flight attendants notified the pilot, who then chose to turn the plane around. Back at the gate, the pilot asked the father and son to get off the plane!!
Slacker and Steve think that this is on the father. If he had or took control of his three year old son, this wouldn’t have been an issue.
What do you think about this situation?
I’m going to have to agree with Slacker and Steve on this. My parents did whatever they could to pacify all three of their kids on airplanes, without breaking the law. Take control or pay the consequences.
Tina and Chris joined us live for Great Mate Debate today to discuss guns in the house.
Tina is pregnant and wants Chris to get a gun for the house in case someone ever breaks in, because her neighbor’s house was recently broken in to. She was raised around guns and thinks it should be a part of their lives now too. Chris wants no part of any guns in the house in fear that it will end up hurting them or their new baby.
Slacker thinks that if one person says “No,” the answer should be no. Steve has and shoots guns and feels that if someone is properly trained they should be fine.
Whose side are you on?
I personally think Chris needs to find his big boy pants, go get a gun, learn how to shoot it and say “Yee Haw!” all before the baby is born!
Swallowed by Slacker And Steve,posted May 30 2012 6:17PM
At an alarming rate, kids are swallowing laundry detergent pods! Nearly 250 people have called poison centers in the past few months after small children had bitten into the packets or swallowed them whole. They think the reasoning behind children eating them is because of their shape and bright color. Luckily, no kids have died from this yet, but we wanted to know…What have you swallowed?
Apparently, when I was little all I did was eat grass, but my brothers loved to swallow pennies.
In Kansas, 13-year-old Addison Logan was driving around with his grandmother, Lois Logan looking at garage sales. Finally, at one stop, which happened to be a mile away from his grandfather’s house, he spotted something he wanted to purchase. He bought an old Polaroid camera at $1 and went home to learn how to use it. When he opened up the cartridge, he found an old photograph inside and showed the photo to his grandmother. The photo…was a shot taken of her son, Scott, who passed away in an auto accident over 23 years ago. The shot was taken with his high school girlfriend and looked to be around 10 years before his death, so 1978 or 1979! Lois could not believe Addison had found that photo hidden in the camera he had just purchased! They tried to do some digging on how he made its way back to them, but the previous owner couldn’t remember where he got it and it had no connection to the house, but still, this story is certainly one story that if someone told it to you, you wouldn’t believe them!
Do you have a “You Wouldn’t Believe Me If I Told Ya” story?
Yi! My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and I’m positive we’ll get married someday. Over the weekend, we were at my boyfriend’s family reunion and everyone wanted to get a family picture. While everyone was getting ready, his mom came over and told me that I wasn’t allowed in the picture. She said it was because we were dating and she didn’t know how long I’d be a part of the family—it wasn’t personal. I felt totally snubbed and my boyfriend didn’t even stick up for me! What really got me mad was the fact his loser brother’s wife was allowed in the picture. They only dated for like 10 minutes and got married about 4 months ago! Up to this point, I’ve always felt like a part of the family. Now I feel like they hate me and don’t approve of us. I have the right to be angry about this, don’t I? How do I face his family next time?
“It’s only the people that have bought the cow that get in the picture,” is what Slacker said. He agrees that it sucks when you take a picture and it’s there forever if something bad was to happen. In a sense, the mother is saving her from years of being viewed in the family just in case. Slacker’s parents still have photos of him and his ex-wife, but they were on and off for years and then the whole divorce. She was around for a long time. Then Slacker brought up the point of not putting someone in a photo…It’s like letting the person with cancer into your photo and then they weren’t there one day and you wished they were.
Steve thinks the mom had a valid point. He got so invested it started to sound like he was watching a soap opera.
What advice do you have for Amber?
I think Amber is being over-dramatic here…First off, I think the keyword is wife. His brother is married and it doesn’t matter how long they’ve been together, she now has the last name and is officially a part of the family. You may be considered “family” but you’re not official and they don’t want to take a photo with someone that may be replaced. I’m on the mom’s side with this and although it hurts, it’s the truth.
We found a rule that will help you never get a divorce. It’s called the “three strikes you are out” rule where a woman is allowed to say “no” to relations 3 times a year with no reason necessary and if she says “no” for a fourth time, he gets to say “There’s no food in the fridge…I’m going out for dinner.” If he says this, that means he gets to have relations outside the marriage.
Do you like this rule? Would this work in your marriage?
If my husband ever said that to me, I would divorce him so fast he wouldn’t know what hit him. I’m sorry, but a marriage is binding…It’s you confessing your love for one another, not to have relations with whoever you please. It’s sickness and in health ‘til death do you part. Nowhere in the vows does it say…”And if you don’t want relations, I may find someone else outside the marriage.” That is not marriage! That’s wrong. It’s not okay…
If we all don’t know this by now, Steve is an impatient man…But this time his impatience may have made him look creepy. Steve was waiting in line at a store to make a purchase, but in front of him was a group of kids. The kids were trying to count their money and were taking forever so Steve told the clerk to ring up his stuff and add the price of the kids’ candy. Steve thought he was doing a good deed, but then he noticed some disgusting, dirty looks coming from the parents waiting for the kids.
Was it creepy of him to buy candy for the kids?
Slacker, knowing who Steve is could totally see why Steve would buy candy for those kids because of how impatient he is, but when he thinks about his daughter pointing back to a guy that looks like Steve, he would find it creepy! Also, if you remember the story about Steve not helping the kid in Target, it’s totally the opposite of what Steve normally does!
As a parent, I would probably be totally creeped out by Steve’s gesture, but from looking at it on the outside, I would think he was doing a sweet thing. Granted, it’s rude to be impatient, but if he was willing to pay then just say thank you so much you didn’t have to do that and kindly go on with your life.
According to Redbook, there are couples out there that celebrate the anniversary of their first kiss or even the first time they had relations. In fact, most couples have at least one weird anniversary that they celebrate.
On August 17, not of this year of course, was the first time Slacker met his wife in a strip club. He also related to his now wife for the first time on tax day and confessed his love to her at a Beck concert on June 14th. Our Midday Goddess Sam Hill celebrated her proposal date with her husband this past weekend at the Rockies game where it all went down!
Imprint by Slacker And Steve,posted May 29 2012 5:28PM
Is there something that will forever make you relate to a certain person? An “imprint” on your soul…? Like the guy that cried on a date? Or, someone that wet the bed during your first night together?
I will always remember my friend Aaron as the guy that always asks…I don’t want to say dumb…But the most random, bizarre questions. In fact, we have a list of things he would say and that will forever be imprinted in me.
My name is Emma. I'm fifteen years old and a sophomore in High School. One of my really good guy friends is going into the Marines in the fall and I really like him... yes in that way... but anyway, He's 19. Before you go off on the whole, "wait... he's four years older than you..." rampage, I know. I'm very well aware of that. I realize that it’s not even legal for us to date anyway. But think of it this way, 10 or 15 years from now, four years is NOT going to make a difference. There are 85-year-olds marrying 30-year-olds... It’s not unheard of. My OPP is about how I should go about telling him or if I even should at all. He's just going to California for training but I'm still scared to death that he will eventually be deployed and I will never get to tell him how I feel. What should I do?”
So, what do you think she should do? Do you have any advice for Emma?
If you could go back and confess your love for someone, would you?
There are two things that come to mind when I read this OPP. One, you’re too young to know what love really is, but really who am I to stand in the way. We all have a different view on love and you can’t really know what the person is feeling unless you are standing in their shoes. So, the second thing that came to my mind is, tell him! Tell him everything, don’t leave anything out. Just sit down with him, let him know where you’re coming from and don’t be afraid to show your heart. We pass up the chance to say I love you so many times and we always look back regretting that decision. There’s no time to waste in life!
Remember Melanie? We talked to Melanie last week about her boyfriend that is 26 years older than her and how her parents had invited them over for a BBQ, but had no idea of their age difference! We got an update from her in an e-mail…
“Yi guys. Sorry I can’t come back on the radio with you, but here is what happened when my boyfriend came over to meet my parents at the BBQ yesterday. I couldn’t bring myself to tell them his age before we went over there. It was kind of weird because my dad was really cool about everything. They got along great and they’re even going to play golf next weekend. When we were leaving my dad told me that as long as I was happy he was happy for me. My mom on the other hand was strange about it. Every time my boyfriend was telling a story, she would cut him off or try to butt in and change the topic. It was almost like she was jealous of him or something. She never told me if she liked him or not, but I got the feeling she wasn’t happy about it. Oh well. I guess she’ll just have to get used to it because I know he is the man for me. Thanks again for doing my OPP guys…it really made me realize that this is what I want.
Melanie <3 “
What do you think about this?
I’m happy for Melanie! Age is nothing but a number and she’s right…Her mom is going to have to get over it, especially if the father is ok with it because that seems so very rare.
Last FrYiDay we did a topic called ‘Right Now’ where we wanted to hear what exactly you were doing at that moment!
If you remember Tiffany, she found out that her fiancé got her a fake diamond for her engagement ring so she was on her way to confront him about it! Turns out when she got to his place, he got in his car and took off!! Up to this point, she has not even seen him, but over the weekend she did some digging and she discovered that everything about her fiancé is fake from the clothes, the cars, the house and more! It’s all fake! He’s actually in serious debt and he’s been pretending to live a lifestyle that he can’t even afford. The relationship looks to be over!
Wow!! This is so sad!! It’s so hard to be in a relationship like that and to think you were in love with someone when behind it all you knew absolutely nothing! It’s heart breaking! It’s shattering! You start to blame yourself for not being able to see through it, but truth be told you can’t look at it like that. You can’t blame yourself because you were in the relationship for all the right reasons and he wasn’t. Eventually, the pain will pass and an even better man will come along!
Kill the family pet…wreck the sports car…flood the house?
When he was a young man, Slacker killed a family dog while he was house-sitting! He claims that the pooch was old and gross, anyway. It was one of those dogs that was going blind, smelled bad and always looked like it was dead. He’d put the food down and then have to clap to get the dog’s attention. He was supposed be giving the dog medicine, but Slacker swears that not giving the dog its’ medicine didn’t kill him. He never told the family. Instead he left it lie, assuming his dad would take care of it. He has no idea what ever happened to the dog, but he does remember the steak that night was super chewy…Steve, note to self, if you ever go on vacation, lose Slacker’s number!
I went on vacation and came back to a well kept house, my mail neatly piled on the counter, clean water in the cat bowl, etc. The only thing missing was my cat! I called the couple that watched my house and they said they would be right over to explain. Explain? Well, my friends stopped by to feed my cat one day and usually he was at the door waiting for them. They thought something was a bit off, so they went outside to look for him and found the poor cat on the porch, sleeping. What they didn’t realize was that he was dead! The next day, they found him in the same spot and tried to wake him. Not knowing how I would handle the burial, they stuck him in my freezer! I then had to take my frozen kitty to the vet and have him cremated!
Do you have a House-sitter Horror Story?
Peace, Love and Good Happiness Stuff! – Rayman the Intern
Yi guys! I don't know if this is as much an OPP as it is a vent but here it goes. What is it with people who obviously can't fit into a pair of pants yet insist on wearing them in public? It grosses me out to have to stranger butt crack and muffin top yet I'm subjected to it daily! Who do we have to talk to in order to get a "Muffin and Bun" law passed? I want to be able to write people tickets.
Slacker and Steve have no real advice, but they did have other examples that they would outlaw. Slacker says if you’re over 30, wearing a flat bill hat off to the side with the gold seal still on it and pretending to be a thug, stop it. You are not a thug and you look like a tool. Slacker will either punch you in the face or, at the least, write you a ticket. Steve would write the “female-tent-maternity dress” ticket. Especially on the women who have rockin’ bods! You know the ones, the elastic is just below the mommy parts. Looks like a moo-moo!
Other fashion no-no’s discussed:
If you wear a cycling jersey that’s a size too small because you need to lose a few pounds, Slacker and Steve will applaud you for your efforts, but not your fashion sense. News Flash! You’re not Lance Armstrong. Stop testing the elasticity of the material!
Same goes for people running on the side of the road with no shirt on or a sports bra, don’t do it! You are not ready yet!
How about those parents that put the harness/leash on their kids and take them out to the mall! Seriously, I kennel train my dog, but I would never put a harness on my kid!
The other display that I find disturbing is the rubber pair of daddy parts that pickup truck owners put on the hitch receiver for everyone to admire! WTF? Do you really think I want to see your parts on display?
What fashion faux pas do you wish to see banned?
Peace, Love and Good Happiness Stuff! – Ray the Intern
Right Now by Slacker And Steve,posted May 25 2012 3:45PM
It’s FrYiday! What is the drama going on in your life right now? Are you about to tell your mom you are gay? Are you about to go bust a cheater? Will Steve be accused of road rage (again!)? Slacker’s drama was trying to find his sound effect for dun-dun-dun!! Other than that, Slacker and Steve are drama free.
My drama right now is my bass player has called me over and over and over again to forward a contact that my wife has for a cleaning service. The reason I haven’t gotten him the info is due to my wife being out of town! Which I have told him on several occasions…
Peace, Love and Good Happiness Stuff! – Intern Rayman
A German woman was tired of receiving phone calls from telemarketers so on the next call, she whistled into the guy’s ear, damaging his hearing. Now she’s being fined $800. Do you think she should have to pay this fine?
If someone breaks into your house and trips over your vacuum and they broke their leg, do you think you should have to pay for their broken leg when they intruded on your property? Steve likes Slacker’s reasoning and doesn’t think she should have to pay the fine.
I can’t make up my mind. One, it’s not his fault he happened to be the next telemarketer to call her and get his ear whistled into causing damage…That’s not right, but at the same time, telemarketers are awful. I hate getting those calls. Sometimes you just get irritated so I can see the woman’s frustration. I wonder how loud of a whistle she had. She couldn’t be the total cause of damaging his hearing…A factor could be his years of being a telemarketer with a phone in his ear.
You ever have one of those moments where you turned your head for one second and all of sudden there was chaos?
For example, you decided to have your family go out into the yard to play and the wife was going to pour some lemonade so you turn your head for one second and boom, your daughter is eating the dogs poop in the yard!
Our Producer Dave had one of those moments. When he was younger his buddy had invited him over to play video games, but he was watching his sister. He thought no big deal though and brought the walker. She was just walking around the room while he was playing video games and he turned his head from watching her for one second and when he turned his head back she was gone! The next thing they heard was “dunk dunk dunk…”
Yi! My mom passed away seven years ago and my dad has started dating again. Although I'm very happy for him and really hope he meets someone nice, I'm a bit freaked out because he's coming to me for dating advice. The other night he called and asked when he should move in for a kiss, and if women still wait as long to sleep with a man as they did 30 years ago. I don't want to discourage him from putting himself out there but I don't want to be my dad's Love Coach! How do I tell him that? Thanks for the help guys! –Carrie
Slacker doesn’t want to be anyone’s love coach, but he feels like of bad for Steve. Steve never got to experience that point where your parents start to become your friend and Slacker got to an age where his parents started to share things to him. For him, it was way too much information and it’s hard to have a conversation with your parents that it’s too much to know. However, you wouldn’t want your parents to just Google that information, like when it comes to when you should move in on a kiss and so forth.
What advice do you have for Carrie?
First off I want to tell Carrie that I am very sorry for her loss! Second, although it might seem kind of uncomfortable, I would find it kind of cool that my dad would be coming to be for advice. I mean we all go through these things in life and I think if you can be that comfortable with your parents, it’s a very good thing!
Car sales for a mini-van are on the rise!! Parents are starting to put their kids to bed and then sneak off to the mini-van to have relations! They say there’s plenty of room in a mini-van to comfortably have relations and that way they won’t disturb the kids. Have you done this?
Slacker, father of two, never wants to have a mini-van. He never wanted to be that parent where he had to trade in his car for a van with doors only on one side. Even if he did have a van, he doesn’t know if he could handle it. Steve brought up a binky and cheerios and the binky is what did it for Slacker. He doesn’t even want to imagine one on his back or his wife’s.
Like Slacker, I don’t ever want to own a mini-van. If I needed a place to have relations with my husband without disturbing the kids, sure I would use the car. If people want to buy a mini-van for relations, I say go for it! You got to get some, somehow.
Today, Kim and Cory joined us live on the air for another Great Mate Debate.
Kim and Cory have been married for a while now and although everything in the relations department has been normal, things have started to pick up lately. Things have been fun and exciting in their relationship and Cory started to question if something was different about Kim. So, he asked her and he wasn’t trying to complain or anything because lets not deny it, he loves it, but when he asked she mentioned there was something. Kim had a friend take nude photos of her, very artistic, very classy, and post them online. She had her face blurred out so no one could tell it was her and she has received a ton of positive comments. She has gained a lot of confidence and she’s very proud of her body. Although Cory loves what’s been happening, he would rather go back to when these photos were not online. He doesn’t like the idea of other man looking at his wife so he wants her to take them down. Also, when they have a kid, what if he or she was to see these photos?
Slacker doesn’t like that Cory is basing everything off of a child that doesn’t even exist yet and rather he see’s this new found confidence in Kim as more of an upside than a down side for their relationship.
What do you think? Whose side are you on? Should the photos be taken down?
If Kim needs the internet to make her feel better about herself, I don’t want to say it’s sad, but your husband should be the one that makes you feel that confidence. I get that when you’re together for a while you tend to think you’re not wanted by anyone or him, but I don’t see this as the correct way to fix a relationship, especially when you say your relationship has been normal.
A ladies boss recently came up to her and mentioned that she owed $50 for a gift that was for a co-workers birthday. First off, she was not asked to contribute and she doesn’t even know or like to person, so she’s wondering why she has to pay the $50. She thinks it would be so much easier for her boss to write it off as a business expense because he already makes so much money. She doesn’t know how to handle this situation and is tired of paying $100 a month on co-worker birthday gifts. So, what is the etiquette here? Does she have to pay the $50?
This is a very sticky situation to me. I don’t think she should have to pay the $50 but then she would look like a horrible co-worker because she didn’t want to and that could hurt her in the business field. Maybe say you already got the co-worker a gift or just start budgeting it in because I’m not sure there’s a proper way out of this.
Today, we are putting the station in your hands. Instead of giving you a topic to talk about, we are giving you the opportunity to call us up and confess anything you need to get off your chest! It’s Open Line Confessional!
What do you need to get off your chest?
This probably is not the type of phone call Slacker and Steve are looking for but I have to confess my new love for Taylor Kitsch. If you don’t know him, he is currently starring in ‘Battleship’ and was in ‘John Carter.’ Also, ‘Friday Night Lights.’ He is an amazing, humble actor and he is becoming my new crush. Move over Tim Tebow!
Today, Melanie joined us live on the air today to discuss her OPP.
Melanie is 22-years-old and she is currently dating a 48-year-old. Numbers don’t matter to the both of them and it’s been perfect. He treats her like every boyfriend should. This weekend, her parents invited her over for a Memorial Day Weekend BBQ and she’s nervous because they haven’t met him yet nor do they know how old he is. She’s so worried about it, she doesn’t even know if she wants to go or should for that matter. Also, if she does go, does she tell her family beforehand or just show up with her boyfriend?
Steve says all dads will never support this and Slacker can agree. Slacker can’t even imagine his daughter bringing home someone outside of her generation. It’s like he would be looking to a peer and he doesn’t like that feeling. He wouldn’t be able to talk to or look at any 48-year-old man that has a 22-year-old daughter.
Steve thinks Melanie also has some sort of daddy issues which is why she may be turning to an older man. Either way, he thinks she should tell one family member to ease it into the family and eventually the rest of them will hear.
Both Slacker and Steve think she is giving her twenties away to this guy. To them, your twenties are when you should be experiencing new things and getting it all out of your system.
What advice do you have for Melanie?
In all honesty, I agree with Melanie that age is nothing but a number and if you find someone that makes you truly happy and deep down you love that person, then there’s nothing wrong about it. It may seem a little uncomfortable at first, but I would hope that Melanie’s parents would be supportive. It’s the right thing to do and if it turns out to be a mistake, that’s a lesson for her to learn and we all make them.
I Never by Slacker And Steve,posted May 23 2012 3:41PM
Slacker can’t believe this! As a show we use facebook all the time and as it turns out, 40% of American have never used it! That’s two out of every five Americans and as of March 31st, over 901 million people are using facebook worldwide! Crazy! What common things have you never done, but everyone else has?
I’ve never been on a rollercoaster. I’ve never seen the Godfather movies…I’ve never been skydiving. There’s a ton of things I’ve never done.
A German woman was at the gas station with her friend when she realized she didn’t have enough money to pay for her gas. So, she left her friend as a deposit and supposedly went to go grab some money. Well, two hours later after not returning, the police were called and the friend left behind was interrogated before being released by the police. A spokesperson for the police said, “She didn't have enough money to pay the bill, so her friend stayed behind as a human deposit while she went to withdraw cash." The police are now investigating the driver on suspicion of fraud.
I just said no to my boyfriend's marriage proposal because of money issues and I feel awful. He's in a ton of debt from school and racking up major credit card bills, and I just don't want to have to take that on. Ever since college, I've worked my butt off to pay off my student loans and keep my credit score high, because it was important to me, and I'm not really happy with the idea of someone coming along and ruining it. He says I'm being shallow, but I think I'm just trying to look out for myself and my future. I feel really bad about this, but I don't know if I should be willing to compromise.
What should I do? Pamela
I can see both sides of this situation but when it comes to love, I fall hard and I am willing to do anything to help that person. I don’t want to be the guy’s mom or anything, but I would be willing to take on bad credit and make it better because I love him.
Last Friday, we talked to Vicki. Vicki decided she was going to break-up with her boyfriend this weekend because he was horrible in bed. We asked her if we could get an update from her today and she accepted. So, what happened? Did she tell him the truth?
…She did! She broke it off and explained why and you won’t believe the response she got! He told her he was happy about it! Turns out he is gay and she was his last attempt at dating a woman. Now she feels hurt by this because she feels used and made a guy realize he is gay.
What do you think about all this?
Sometimes I think it’s best if you don’t tell someone why you are breaking up with them. Just explain it wasn’t working and go your separate way. Why hurt someone that you once loved. On the other hand, I appreciate Vicki’s honesty and I feel real bad that she feels used. It’s not right how he went about it, but it might have been really hard for him so although it ended up being an upsetting situation, I think you need to respect each other and move on.
Today is FrYiDay and we want to go into the weekend with a clear head. So, we decided it’s time for, what gets yer goat? It’s a little thing we like to do where you get to vent about the little things in life that just drive you mad! For example, flip flops. According to a bunch of bloggers, flip flops should never be worn in public. A fashion designer, Tom Ford, said, “A man should never wear shorts in the city. Flip-flops and shorts in the city are never appropriate. Shorts should only be worn on the tennis court or on the beach."
What are the little things that make you mad?
Something that always bothers me everyday is when someone thinks they have the right away on the road and can just hop in front of me without using a blinker. I mean…Come on! So rude! You do not own the road!
Yi Slacker and Steve! My husband forces me to be the bad cop all the time. When its bed time and the kids ask to stay up, he tells them to ask me. So I have to be the bad guy that forces them to bed. I’m the one that has to say no when they ask for candy at the store. It’s not just with the kids either! If the dry cleaning isn’t done right, I have to take it back and complain. If we eat out and the order is wrong, I have to confront the waitress. The list goes on and on. I’m sick of it! I don’t want to be the bad cop! How do I get him to toughen up and take charge of a situation for once?
I am not one for confrontation so first off, I have to give Erica some credit here…It’s not easy to tell people how it is. If Erica’s husband was my husband…Actually forget that because it never would have worked with us. I could probably handle being bad cop most of the time with the kids, but out in public…No way! I don’t want people to hate me, spit in my food, none of that. He would have to man up and take charge or really, just let it go. Maybe life would just be easier that way. Unfortunately, I don’t have any advice on this. I wish I did…
A while back we talked to a woman named Heidi. She and her husband made a pack to quit smoking and he’s been doing great at it. In fact, he’s so serious about it that when she got caught by him, he made it very clear that if she was caught again it would be like she’s cheating. Well, it has happened again. She fell off the wagon and she knows she can’t tell him so she’s been carrying around extra clothes, spray for her hair and other things to help decrease the smell of smoke. She’s taken so many pre-caution steps, but the more she smokes, the more she realizes how upset he would be and the guilt continues to grow. Slacker had a question for Heidi…”How can you love that nasty thing that you know is killing you, more than your husband?” Heidi calls it an addiction. She doesn’t want to love it, she loves her husband, but she can’t stop. She’s so stressed out all the time she needs that one moment of bliss.
Well, we got an update from Heidi today and sadly, it’s not good. A week and a half ago, Heidi’s husband called her work and at the time she was out smoking. Her co-worker mentioned that to her husband and that was the last straw for him. He packed up his things and went to stay at his parent’s house. He hasn’t been answering her phone calls and only sends one worded text to her.
This got us thinking…What is the shallow reason you broke up with someone or someone broke up with you?
I can’t believe I’m willing to admit this because it’s so shallow, but I’ve actually broken up with a guy over his height. He was a good guy, but he was jus the slightest bit shorter than me and it would drive me crazy.
You hate to do it, but sometimes you have to get a bit creative and lie to your kids. Like Slacker…When he’s at the store with his son Noah and he wants a new toy, he will tell Noah that he is going to get carded if he tries to buy the toy he doesn’t meet the age requirements for.
What lies have you told your children?
I don’t currently have any kids, but when I was a babysitter I would tell lies to the kids all the time just to get them to do what I needed them to do. I can’t remember exactly what lies I told since it was a while back, but it always revolved around watching TV, going to bed, and eating.
Did you know that one in three Americans have sleepwalked at least once in their life? Researchers discovered that 29% of us have sleepwalked at least once and close to 3% said they did it between once a year and once a month, and 1% said they sleepwalk twice a month! They also discovered that you have an increased chance of sleepwalking if you suffer from severe depression or have an obsessive-compulsive disorder.
I don’t have a crazy story about sleepwalking, but when I was a teen I fell asleep on the couch one night and all of a sudden I was in my bed when I woke up the next morning. I have no idea how it happened, so I must have been sleepwalking to my bed. It’s weird…
Today Kira joined us live on the air, but here is the e-mail she sent us:
Yi! My boyfriend and I have been broken up for three years, but I have to admit, I just recently really got over it. Now he wants to get together for lunch and introduce me to his new girlfriend. He says we'll really like each other and that he'd love for us to meet. But I just don't know if I'm ready for all that. Should I take the high ground and meet her -- or can I/should I say no thanks?
One, I can completely relate to Kira about it taking years for her to get over someone. It’s really, really rough when you thought that person was going to be the one. I know Kira would be a strong person for going through on this lunch, but I don’t think it’s a good idea bringing the new girlfriend to meet the old flame. A lot of things could go wrong. Some people get lucky with the transition back into friends and the new significant other trusting in that, but it seems so rare these days.
What do you think? What advice do you have for Kira?
It’s time for another Great Mate Debate and today Nicholas and Lyla were kind enough to join us live on the air!
Lyla is currently a stay-at-home mom and Nicholas works full time. Nicholas doesn’t like that when he gets home, he is basically handed the kids as soon as he walks in the door. He would like some time when he gets home to kind of decompress from his day at work, but Lyla thinks she deserves at least a little attention, as well as the kids. The kids hardly get to see Nicholas and they get really excited when he gets home, but most importantly, she needs some adult interaction after hanging around kids all day. So, should time after work to relax be allowed or should parent/spouse time kick in right away? Whose side are you on?
This one is tough for me because I can understand a stressful day at work and needing some time to decompress, but you should also expect parenting to be a full time job so Lyle technically doesn’t get any time to relax either. If I was Nicholas, personally I would want to get all those parenting duties out of the way that way I can relax the rest of the evening, but I don’t think its right he just gets thrown the kids the second he gets home. I’m torn… Where are you at with this?
We got an email from someone that works with a pregnant woman that smokes. She wants to know if she should confront her co-worker or not. She says the woman is clearly not considering the welfare of the child, so shouldn't someone?
I can definitely relate to this topic. I used to bartend at a chain restaurant while I was in college. It was rare, but every once in a while a pregnant woman (and I mean 7-9 months) would take a seat at the bar and order a drink. I know it's not my place to tell someone how to live their life, but serving them a drink with hard alcohol in it was one of the hardest things to do. Then if they ordered another...I don't even want to get into that! Another reason this topic is hitting close to home is because my wife and I have been trying for a baby for the last year and a half. We would do anything for a kid right now and it infuriates me to see someone treat pregnancy as though it is a nuisance. If I were this woman, I would definitely say something to my co-worker.
What do you think she should do? Have you ever confronted a pregnant woman over a bad choice she was making?
Kelly Ripa recently admitted her husband, Mark Consuelos, used to be a stripper. She tells Vanity Fair, "A lot of hot guys in Hollywood have done that. I even have an old calendar pinup of him. He was straight out of college — he went to Notre Dame but he finished his degree at the University of South Florida. So, there he was in South Florida, he's gorgeous, looking to break into show business, so he started off as a roadie to a group of these guys, and then they talked him into stripping."
I can thankfully say that I really didn't have any big secrets like this come out after my wife and I married. We made it a point to make sure that we both knew every little thing about each other so nothing would come back to haunt us. I have had a friend that something like this happened to. He had been dating the girl for about 2 years when they got engaged. The said the vows and a few weeks later he found out exactly how much debt she was in. They'll most likely be paying collectors until the day they both die.
Was there a secret like this that came out in your marriage after you said your vows? What post-marriage bombshell did your spouse drop on you?
Yi boys! I’m in a relationship and I live with my boyfriend. My sister was recently cheated on so I’ve taken it upon myself to protect my relationship. If my boyfriend’s phone is lying around, I will scroll through his text messages. I don’t read every single one—I just make sure there are no weird numbers or anything inappropriate. We also have an app on our phones that will tell us if the security system has been armed or not. If I see that he has turned it on or off at a weird time I text him to ask what’s going on. (Little stuff like that) I’m really not a jealous person—I’ve just seen my sister and a lot of my girlfriends get cheated on by their boyfriends and I refuse to let myself become one of them. One friend told me I was spying and that I was crossing a line. I say, he’s a part of my life and I’m entitled to know that I’m still in a healthy relationship or not. I feel like my girlfriends could have saved themselves a lot of heartache if they would have done this, too. Am I the only woman that does this stuff?
I think Erin is going a little too far. I don't consider myself to be the jealous type either. If my wife's phone is near me and a text comes through, I'll peak to see who it is from. I think it is human nature to be curious and want to know what is happening around you, but Erin sounds like she is guarding herself way too heavily and taking this overboard. Although we are only getting one side of the story here, Erin failed to mention anything about her boyfriend giving her a reason to be doing the things she is. She never said he's cheated before, or he acts very strange with a certain female co-worker, etc. To me, it sounds like she has trust issues and is looking for some sort of evidence to not be in the relationship.
What do you think? Is Erin going too far or does a woman have the right to know every detail in her boyfriend/husband's life?
Kerri Dobson recently admitted to the UK paper The Sun that she has taken a small "trophy" from each of the 21 partners she's had in her life. She admitted to The Sun, "Each time I spend the night with a guy I walk away with something I hope he won’t miss. Often it’s clothes like a used pair of boxer shorts, an old T-shirt, a hat or a jumper — something that smells of him. I’m not ashamed of my big collection as each sexual experience has shaped me and the items remind me of that.”
I will admit it....I do have something from one girl. The only reason I kept the "trophy" was because it was from the night I lost my V-card. I don't think keeping something to remind yourself of one specific night is all that important. To tell the truth, every time I come across my "trophy" I think to myself, "Why the hell do I still have this?"
The sanctity of Steve’s home was seriously violated by a guest he willingly let in! So what happened that made Steve feel so violated? The guest used the decorative soap instead of the plain hand soap! How dare they!
I really think Steve is crazy for this one. Soap is soap. If you didn't want someone to use it, don't put it in the bathroom! The thing that drives me crazy is when you go to someone's house and the only available bathroom is the one used as the main bathroom. After you wash your hands, the only towel in the bathroom is the one the person living there has used for showering. That's gross. I don't want to dry my hands on a towel that has touched...who knows where!
Would it bother you if a guest used your decorative soap or towels in the bathroom?
In a new study they show that 90% of women over the age of 30 are "crippled by low self-esteem and body-confidence issues" while they attempt to work out in public. Most of these women work out in sweats, in the dark or don’t even bother to work out. Seventy-one percent said they would rather eat comfort food or find a way to be alone and 66% said they’d rather sleep.
Are you ashamed of working out in public? Have you had an embarrassing moment?
Steve doesn’t want to look like that guy that doesn’t know how to do anything so he has work out shame, but Slacker doesn’t have a problem working out in public. He just hates working out next to the guy making all those, I’m so strong, noises!
I’m not embarrassed to work out in public and when I don’t know how to use a machine I kind of just laugh and walk away or the guy next to me notices and helps me out. Also, a lot of the times I have a friend come with me and we suffer together. I haven’t been to the gym in the while, but it’s not because I don’t want to work out in public, but rather because I have no motivation. I rather work out in my own home than work out in a gym, but that’s because I’m lazy and don’t want to drive, so like the survey, I rather sleep.
People that have had gastric bypass surgery done, think because they only eat half of their meal portion, they shouldn’t have to pay for the food they don’t eat. Do you think they should be reimbursed for their uneaten portions?
Steve doesn’t see why this would be the restaurants fault. Slacker agrees by saying why should you be special just because you had surgery? Steve thinks it’s a great thing trying to take care of yourself by getting the surgery done and it’s awesome, but you should probably plan on bringing food with you wherever you go or expect to take some home. That’s just how it is…
Slacker wonders if they should have this available to all people, not just for people that have had gastric bypass surgery done…What do you think? Should this theory be available to all people?
As much as I would love to be reimbursed for the food I don’t eat, you should expect that certain restaurants have certain meal sizes and that’s just the way it goes. If you can’t finish it, you have to take the loss and either take it home or except it. It’s not the restaurants fault you can’t finish it, like Steve said.
Did you know that b.o.b.s are the second highest selling gadget in the U.S.? Yeah, $500 million was spent on them last year and 50% of women have admitted to using a toy. Over 70% of men aren’t event threatened by a woman using a toy. Either way, we know its super embarrassing when someone finds yours, so we want to know…Has anyone ever found your b.o.b.? What happened?
Yi! I need your Guys help!! I have been with my Boyfriend for little over a year. And we had made a BIG move to Texas a few months back. We talked about Marriage and how we would want our wedding to be like. The thing is we aren't even engaged. But just in the last week he has been saying he no longer want to get married and the thought of a wedding stresses him out. I feel lead on and I dunno if I should move back to Colorado or not. I love him with all my heart. I just know if I move back home it will end our relationship. I would marry this guy in heart beat if he would ask. Please Slacker and Steve. I need your help.
Slacker says as a guy you do not get stressed out by the idea of getting married, that’s crap, but she is right about one thing…That the relationship will be over if she moves back to Colorado. Slacker says both guys and girl will go back and forth on kids because in their life at that moment we start to re-examine things. This guy did this with marriage and can we really be mad at him for it?
Slacker makes a good point, but if her heart is set on getting married then she really needs to sit down and chat with him because ultimately I think with a new city, it’s like a new start and maybe he’s thinking it'
According to a new survey, it would take $35,000 for the average American to pose nude in a magazine.
Slacker doesn’t think the number is high enough. In fact $100,000 minimum is what he would take. He says no matter how tastefully it was done, it will always be there so your kids may see it one day.
I don’t know what I would do. I think if I could pay off my college debt and live comfortably, I would definitely pose nude for less than six figures. I’ve always dreamed about being in a magazine or something of the sort, so why not!
How much would it take for you to pose nude tastefully in a magazine?
In Washington D.C., a man responded to a Craig’s List ad for a bicycle and he rode off without paying for it. However, he didn’t get in trouble for it because the seller had originally stolen it from him! A man named Danny Lesh lost his bike in a robbery and he recognized the ad on Craig’s List because of a distinctive sticker it had on it. When he approached the man as a costumer on a street corner, he asked if he could test it out and took off full speed! Nice work!
Slacker once followed a hit and run. He was a courier at the time and was driving a little Toyota truck. It was the end of a bar night at 6th and Sheridan and this lady clipped the side of his car and continued to take off. Slacker jumped into his car going up 6th at like 100mph and she started taking him on side streets. All he was trying to do was get her license plate number and once he got it, he just turned around. He told the police and arrested her. She sent him $7 for about 3 years to pay him off for his damage. The police were pretty upset at him though because it was like 1 o’clock in the morning when he was telling them.
Mom Stuff by Slacker And Steve,posted May 11 2012 5:11PM
Mother’s Day is coming up this Sunday and you know you have to be nice. However, today is FrYiday and we are giving you the opportunity to rat out your mom. Has she done something weird? Has she embarrassed you? Whatever the case, we want to hear it!
Let me start out by saying my mom is a great mom. However, there are a few things that haven’t been so great. For example, telling me that my butt is starting to fill out and I need to hit the gym. Or telling me the hat I wear all the time makes my nose look funny or pointing out my acne in front of others. Not cool. Anyways, I love you mom! Happy Mother’s Day!
Yi guys! I know football season is still far off, but I don’t want my son to play. He’s played for the last 2 years. With all the recent news stories about football players and brain injuries, I’m thinking about telling him he’s done. My husband says I’m crazy because most of those injuries come from years of repeated hits from professional athletes. As a mom though, I feel like it’s my duty to protect my son. If he does play, I will refuse to watch a single game. Am I overreacting?
What advice do you have for Shannon?
I have been watching a ton of Friday Night Lights lately and I remember in the pilot Jason Street lost the use of his legs. It was really sad and so hard to see, but it is very rare that injuries like that do happen. The media is known for shining a light on football injuries and of course their scary and of course the game comes with a risk, but if you love it, you have to be willing to look past it. Almost everything comes with risk. This is no reason to make her son give up something he loves. If she’s so worried, maybe there’s ways to be make it less risky. I don’t have all the facts, but Shannon is definitely overreacting.
A buddy of Slacker and Steve bought a used car from a private owner online a few months ago. The other day he was at the grocery store and got into a conversation with some guy in the parking lot about Obama accepting gay marriage. He couldn’t figure out why they got into the conversation until the guy pointed out the rainbow stick her had on the back of his car! Slacker and Steve’s buddy has no idea he was driving around with the rainbow sticker, but they all knew the whole time.
Is there something everyone knew, but didn’t tell you?
Just the other day I didn’t know this, but I had just gotten up from sitting in the studio and walked out of the room. I walked into another room and luckily Steve came rolling around and was like hey, Dave said you have something on your left butt cheek. I looked and there it was…A white gum wrapper or something. Awesome…
You never think it’s going to happen…In fact, you could be in church, at the pool, on the beach or even on the red carpet when suddenly…You’ve experienced a booby pop-out moment!
I know I’ve experienced a booby pop-out moment. I was on vacation, a cruise, and we were in St. Maarten on the beach. I decided it would be fun to boogey board in my bikini and I should have known this was a bad idea since I can’t even swim…Well, all of a sudden when I decided to boogey to shore, a wave came and I got sucked under and all of a sudden before I could do something about it, I was experiencing a booby-pop out moment to all of the people on the beach. It was pretty embarrassing…
It’s time once again for speed therapy! That means instead of picking one OPP, we are going to try and help as many of you as we can with your problem!
Yi! Every morning on my way into work, I stop at the coffee shop and have my coffee and a muffin. For the past two months, I have been joined by a guy who also frequents the coffee shop before work. We have started sharing a table and great conversation every morning. He has told me he is single and it's obvious we are both flirting and enjoying each other, but he never asks me out! He hasn't even asked me for my number.
I would really love to see if our breakfast friendship could turn into something more, but he won't take the first step. So, should I ask him out, or should I keep playing it cool and hope that he mans up sooner rather than later? Or, do you think he is hiding something?
I’m telling Lori right now she needs to step up and ask him herself. There’s no time in this life to wait around and although it might ruin the friendship if he says no…To me that doesn’t matter. What’s truly ridiculous is waiting and passing up on an opportunity to find out if there could be something special there.
Today Angie and Kyle joined us live on the air for a lil’ Great Mate Debate. The two of them have been dating for seven years and are about to get married. After they get married, they decided to stay two weeks in Florida for their honeymoon. While they are down there, Kyle has made plans with one of his buddies to play golf three days and go deep sea fishing for two days. Angie is upset about this because this is their honeymoon, they should be spending time together, not with their buddies. She has half a day dedicated to go to the spa, but that’s nothing like 5 out of 14 days Kyle has planned. Kyle doesn’t see the problem. He says it’s no different than any other vacation they’ve been on together. The only difference is they now have rings on their fingers…
Whose side are you on?
Although I can see where Kyle is coming from, I don’t think it’s appropriate to be planning day’s worth of your honeymoon with friends. Honeymoon is the key word here. That’s why they call it the honeymoon stage. It’s the time when you can’t keep your hands off of each other. I understand that seven years can be a long time, but you are making the commitment to spend the rest of your lives with each other so don’t let the love die. Make another vacation for hanging with the buddies.
More and more couples are not only living together but working together too. While there are so advantages to working with you partner, there are just as many disadvantages. If you are working together here are a few tips. One separate home and work, two find ways to maintain your individuality, and tree maintain separate work spaces.
They guys want to know when you would get a break. Slacker says isn’t the saying absence makes the heart grow fonder. He thinks it would be worse for Steve if Slacker’s wife worked here because he would be like a third wheel in the marriage. They both think the only up side to this is that you are getting a pay check.
I have to agree with the guys. I don’t think this is a good idea because you do need time apart from your spouse. You spend nights and weekends with them and it is good for you both to work at different places. I think it would be added stress because then you would argue about work stuff as well.
A 76 year old California lottery winner is suing her son after he stole her lottery winnings. She won $32 million but was too old to sign the back of her ticket, so she asked her son to. He said that was a bad idea, and told his mom to say that he bought it, and he would sign it. After the son collected the money he only gave him mom $125k. The son bought four houses, 10 vehicles, and invested the rest. The mom is now suing her son for the remainder of the money.
Slacker says Steve does it all the time. He had a dog euthanized and took money from his mom’s purse. Slacker worked for a store that sold music, he let a distant family member to do some work at the store and then he started noticing hundreds of CDs missing. He realized it was the family member that was screwing him over.
I can’t believe you could do this to your family! She probably would have given him the money anyway. I could never do this to anyone let alone my own mom. I don’t think I have ever had a family member screw me over, or at least that I can remember.
Today’s OPP is from Elaina and she joined us live:
Her and her boyfriend planned a trip to Cancun. He offered to take her and pay for it. Now a month before their trip he said she needs to lose fifteen pounds. He said if she doesn’t she has to pay her own way if she doesn’t. He got her a gym membership, threw away all the junk food, and had her way in.
Steve thinks he is just helping her out, and he is just helping her out. Slacker wants to know if she complains about her weight, because maybe he is doing it to be a motivator for her. He does think maybe he should have said something from the beginning and not at the last minute. Steve thinks he is just trying to help her out and that he is there to help give her a push.
I think she should talk to him. I can see it as him just trying to help her out, but I can see it as a little out of line. I think she should just talk to him and tell him that she is thankful for him wanting to help but maybe this isn’t the best way. I think she should say that she will try to hit that goal but not be punished if she doesn’t.
Do you think he is helping her out or is he out of line?
Cheating by Slacker And Steve,posted May 9 2012 3:36PM
Slacker and Steve know a guy who is thinking of having an affair. They really like his wife, and have tried everything to try and talk him out of it. Steve came up with an idea that it may take a woman to talk him out of it. At first Slacker didn’t think it would work, but since he is not listening to them, this may just work.
Slacker and Steve have had no luck convincing this guy not to do it. They are not the kind of people who would go to the wife and tell her though. They think since they are guys they can’t talk him out of it. Slacker thinks maybe a woman who has been cheated on might be able convince him not to have the affair. Yet they don’t think getting all emotional will work either. As Slacker talks about it more he thinks the guy should do it because he probably will feel extremely guilty after or even before doing anything.
I don’t think he should do it. From what the guys have said they seem like a nice couple. I guess I just don’t understand why he would want to. Everyone has problems that need to be worked through, and running away is not the answer. Think how much this will hurt his wife. He made a promise to her when they got married and I don’t know how you could just throw it all away. I wish them luck.
Slacker remembers when he had his first child and everyone would tell him that he would have to pay for them for 18 years, but now it looks like kids are starting to move back into their parents house after they’ve gone off to college!
According to a recent poll, 62% of young adults that are between the age of 19 and 22-years-old are still getting money from their parents. On average, the ones getting financial help from their parents are getting a little over 12 grand a year!! Slacker doesn’t have that kind of money! His own dad did such a good job at making it seem like he would never be allowed back into house once he backed out with his boxes. He wonders, if his kids try to come back…What can he do to get them back out?
Do you still get money from your parents? How much and how often? If not, when did you stop taking their money?
I sadly still live with my parents and occasionally, I may need a dollar or two to pay for the light rail or something, but other than that I pay for everything myself. Granted, they still apply the food and pay the phone bill, but I’ve got the rest of it. I just can’t afford a place of my own right now and they are willing to let me stay with them until I can.
Brag by Slacker And Steve,posted May 8 2012 5:15PM
We all have made an accomplishment or two in life and sometimes you just have to let it out and tell it to the world! So, Slacker and Steve thought it would be feel good to brag to all of Denver and give you that chance to share those life accomplishments!
Steve likes to brag about the fact that he invented the tuna, egg salad sandwich. Slacker likes to brag that he was asked to join the band Warrant, a major rock artist.
I like to brag that I am officially on-air! I’ve worked long and hard for this and now I have a weekend shift from midnight to 2am on Saturday mornings and Sunday mornings! So, tune in! Please! And let me know what you think, but be gentle, I’m still learning!
“Hey Slacker and Steve. So I have to make a choice if I should go to me dads funeral or not. He has not passed away yet but is expected to in the next week or so. I have not seen him or talked to him in 10 yrs. My brother sent me a facebook message telling me he was going to die soon and he would like me to come to the funeral. I have made a decision years ago to separate myself from my family due to their choices they have all made. I grew up watching my parents do all the drugs you can think of . Most of the time they would rather be high than feed their kids. So... I hope just by that little view you can see why I feel that it's still best that I stay away due to the Hurt and anger I still have today. I was also told by friends that I should see him before he dies. Am I wrong I'm not wanting to be a part of this? Maybe you guys can help.
Although he wrote us, he also included his phone number and was kind enough to join us on the air for a little more information.
John’s dad has bladder cancer and liver cancer, and it’s from years and years of drug use. John separated himself from his family over ten years ago after his parents had a few stints in jail and he became the foster parent of his siblings. He started to find that lifestyle disgusting and he knew he had to get out of it. Just recently, like he said in the letter, he got a call from his brother that his father was dying and he hasn’t talked to him since he left. His mom was the man source of their family’s problems and he feels like he’s a good man so he’s pretty torn on what to do. Does he go to the funeral or not?
Slacker says if he already knew he wasn’t going to attend the funeral, then he wouldn’t have written the letter.
I think John should go to the funeral. I think it’s a good way to allow that forgiveness and let go out of the past. It’s not good to hold onto the pain and I think he will regret not going because deep down, that is his father and you truly only get one of those. He may have done a lot of wrong in his life, but I don’t know…I’m not sure how to explain it, but it feels right to go.
There’s a ton of things guys don’t know about women, so one woman put it in her hands to create a list of ten things men don’t know about women.
Check out the list below:
We're way more vulgar than you. We just aren't as loud.
We don't really mind when you leave the toilet seat up. It's evidence that you didn't piss all over it.
We drink till you're cute, too.
Whoever told you that we love spooning is wrong. You fall asleep immediately, and we're pinned under your heavy, sweaty limbs, trying desperately to break free before you start snoring. And yes, you will start snoring.
No, we don't want to listen to you play the Guns N' Roses song you just learned on your guitar (or bass or drums). We're not in college anymore. Sitting on your couch while you struggle through "November Rain" is painful. Have mercy.
"You're so smart" actually means, "You're so adorable when you try to act smart."
Sexy beats cute. Smart trumps sexy. Funny takes the pot.
When we say cool, really, wow, and huh, we're not listening, either.
We don't really expect you to like romantic comedies. We just make you watch them as payback for all the baseball games, Metallica concerts, and Super Bowl parties we sit through with you. And for the record, we, unlike you, have yet to fall asleep in the middle of any of them.
We never fake orgasms. Okay, once in a while we do. But only for the sake of expediency.
Do you agree with her? What would you add to this list?
Slacker and Steve are shocked by this list. Especially, the note about spooning...Steve thinks women love to be nurtured and Slacker has never been with a woman that didn’t want to spoon. Slacker has a desire to spoon and it’s not just because of his twenty-five percent estrogen, but he likes to be big spoon, not little spoon. Sadly, he doesn’t even spoon his wife anymore. Steve doesn’t mind being little spoon, at least for a while, but then he has to be the big spoon.
I agree with her mostly, but when I say the word really…I’m usually interested, but when I say cool or huh…Yeah, I’m definitely not paying any attention to what you’re saying. Either that or I heard you; I just don’t really care because there are other things on my mind. When it comes to the toilet seat…No, I still get upset when you don’t put the toilet seat back down after you go. It’s not necessary for me to lift the seat, so it’s not my job to finish your job by putting it back down. The whole spooning thing, this girl is right. It’s great for a few minutes, but it’s true…Why do I want to listen to your obnoxious snoring? Sexy does beat cute. Smart does trump sexy and funny is always number one. The romantic comedies…She’s right, I don’t expect you to like it, but I want to know that you are willing to watch them with me…Get a bit of an understanding of what I like and who I am.
Apparently there is one brilliant question you can ask at the end of a job interview that will be the key to help you get the job or it will get you laughed out of the room. What is that question you may ask?.. "If you don't offer me the job, what would the reason be?" It puts the interviewer on the defensive, yes. But it also shows a few things. One, you're determined to get the job. Two, you know how to be direct, aggressive, and savvy. And three, if they're honest and tell you what they think your fatal weakness is you have the chance to offer a rebuttal and show why they're wrong. Yet there is always a down side. If you’re applying for a higher position, it could make you look like you don’t quite have the proper decorum, and say the reason was that question you just asked. It is hard to stand out right now, so is it worth taking a risk and hoping it helps you out.
Steve said there was an intern that used curse words in her resume which made her stand out in a good way. Slacker and Steve both agree that there is a time and place and if you are probably applying for a school teacher you probably don’t want to do that in a resume . When they were looking for a producer someone send a huge shoe with their resume and said I know I have huge shoes to fill and that defiantly made them stand out.
I don’t know if I would do this. I can understand the positives from it but I would hope to find other ways to stand out. I see this question as telling the employer that I don’t think I will get this job. I defiantly don’t want to do anything that will hurt my chances of getting the job.
Would you ask this question in your next interview and what would you do to stand out in an interview?
It is no surprise that 25 percent of us don’t know our neighbors. What is even more shocking is that 23 percent of us have gotten into a fight with our neighbors. You don’t get to pick your neighbors so you just have to hope you get some good ones, But most of the time there is always one bad one.
Slacker said Steve gets in a fight with everyone. He once got in a fight with his neighbor because he thought he was dead. Slacker was doing yard work and his clothes are a little short and has gotten honked at. Which is funny because they read a story about a man who got arrested because he was mowing the lawn in a loin cloth?
I really don’t know my neighbors. I have met them and wave hi but we are not friends by any means. My cousin on the other hand is not so lucky. She and her family live in a nice community in a townhouse, and have lots of friends in the neighborhood. Unfortunately the only bad neighbors are on both sides of her. One neighbor they tried to be friendly with but she just complains about everything like the fan they run is to loud even though the HOA said it was fine. The best is when she complains that they are apparently slamming the cabinet doors. Their neighbors to the other side of her are just as bad. They let their dogs go to the bathroom on the back patio and don’t clean it up for weeks. So there is a horrible stench and they can’t even go outside to enjoy their patio. That is only some of her horror stories.
On Friday Melissa joined us live on the air to discuss her OPP. Here is a recap:
“Melissa babysits a lot and the family she babysits for, she has been babysitting for them for over a year. However, with the family, she’s always gotten a weird vibe from the dad. He’s never done anything, but he’s always been a little creepy. The very first time she went to babysit, he was showing her all his little home improvement projects like he was bragging and trying to show off. Usually it’s not that big of a deal, but now the wife is going out of town this weekend and he is inviting his buddies over for a boxing event on paper view. He wants her to be there overnight to help take care of the kids and its great money, but she has a weird feeling about it. Could it be a bad idea?”
Slacker and Steve asked Melissa if we could speak with her again today and let us know what she decided and what happened Saturday night. Melissa agreed and you won’t believe what I’m about to tell you!
She decided to babysit, but she wishes she hasn’t. The word creepy kept hanging in her mind and she was right. She got the kids to bed and it was getting late so she went to bed in the guest room. At 3 in the morning, the dad crawled into the same bed that she was in! She got out of bed, flipped out and he apologized because after he drinks that’s usually where he sleeps so he doesn’t disturb his wife. Immediately after, she packed up her stuff and left, and she still has not gotten paid.
Steve hates this guy now! Slacker understands why the guy crawled into that bed because he’s done that kind of thing too…Not with another woman in the bed, but either way he still thinks they are convicting the guy of nothing.
Summer Camp by Slacker And Steve,posted May 7 2012 3:35PM
Slacker’s son is done with school in a few weeks and he wants to know if he should send his son to summer camp. His son is only five but doesn’t want him sitting at home all summer.
Steve went to catholic camp once and apparently it was to teach you to be a better catholic. It was about exploring life and each other. Slacker went to a camp and they had to walk around with nothing just hold hands and trust they find the group and that they will find their way back. He also had to walk around barefoot in the snow and he really didn’t know what the point of that was.
I went to a summer day camp that was at a park. I was probably around nine or ten. It was pretty fun we played games and went on field trips to like Water World and the movies. The only experience I have of camp was when I slipped and fell on the playground and I chipped my front tooth. Luckily it wasn’t too bad and I had it sanded even. I think Slacker should send his son more to a day camp or something like it because he is a little too young, but it might be fun for him.
What was your camp experience, and do you think Slacker should send his son to camp?
Fainting by Slacker And Steve,posted May 4 2012 5:17PM
Steve likes to think he invented crowd surfing at a Romantics concert, but in reality…He just fainted. He was doing some extra-curricular activates before the show and when they got there his buddies wanted to stand towards the front. He’s not a front row kind of guy but he went up there and it got so hot, he started to see the black dots.
Slacker got close to fainting when his wife got really bad morning sickness and at one point had to go to the hospital with her. While they were there, they had to try to find a vein while she is dehydrated and he couldn’t handle it. Of course, all the nurses came to his rescue.
On Tuesday, Glee star Amber Riley was at a Hollywood event and she fainted! After the incident, she tweeted: "Hey guys, I'm okay... I got a little dizzy from all the photog flashes! You'd think I'd be used to it by now, still a red carpet amateur I guess. Gonna get checked out but I feel fine. Thank you for all the concern and well wishes. I'd also like to thank the photographers for being (so) professional and not taking photos of me on the ground. I truly, truly appreciate it. Could have been super embarrassing."
Today Melissa joined us live on the air to discuss her OPP.
Melissa babysits a lot and the family she babysits for, she has been babysitting for them for over a year. However, with the family, she’s always gotten a weird vibe from the dad. He’s never done anything, but he’s always been a little creepy. The very first time she went to babysit, he was showing her all his little home improvement projects like he was bragging and trying to show off. Usually it’s not that big of a deal, but now the wife is going out of town this weekend and he is inviting his buddies over for a boxing event on paper view. He wants her to be there overnight to help take care of the kids and its great money, but she has a weird feeling about it. Could it be a bad idea?
Steve thinks this guy is a moron for putting himself in this position and doesn’t believe in women’s intuition like Slacker. Slacker gets it, but what if he has no feelings for her and she’s just making it up in her brain? Steve see’s all that, but he’s still putting himself in a precarious position. To him, it’s guilty until proven innocent. Plus, Steve wondered if his wife even knew he asked her to babysit. Melissa pointed out that usually the wife calls her, but this time it was him, but that still doesn’t give us much. Slacker says if he’s never said anything and never touched her, then he just wants to tell Melissa, how dare you accuse him of being creepy when he’s done absolutely nothing.
What do you think? What advice do you have for Melissa?
A 53-year-old man named Raul Rivero Riaz of Florida, was standing outside of a convenience store drinking a 16-ounce can of Natural Ice beer when 50-year-old Juan Arellano walked up to him and asked for Natty Ice. Raul said no, but Juan insisted so when Raul said no again, Juan stabbed Raul in the abdomen, grabbed the beer and ran off! Juan was later found and arrested for aggravated assault.
Although it’s hard for Steve to fathom, people do like to procreate. Recently, a friend of the show confided with us that she is with child and because they have tried for so long and he is currently out of town, she doesn’t want to just tell him she’s pregnant when he gets back, she wants to tell him in a creative way!
Slacker’s wife sent him a picture of the stick when he found out she was pregnant with their second and with their first child, he was there when she peed on the stick.
For our friend, we searched up and down for creative videos for ideas and to be honest, they were pretty lame. Honestly, I was kind of getting upset at the guys that were finding out because all they would say was wow or okay and just give the girl a kiss on the check or something. There was no excitement at all. It almost looked like the guy was not excited to have a baby on the way and was trying to come up with a way to get out of the relationship.
Do you have any ideas on a creative way to tell her husband she is pregnant?
Slacker has a fear of clowns and sour cream, but now he will not be visiting the state of Iowa anytime soon! Why? Well, because his worst nightmare has come true or should I say irrational fear. A freshman class at Valley Southwoods in West Des Moines is getting world wide attention and setting the Guinness World Record for the most twins in the same academic year at one school! The previous record was 13, but they have a total of 16!
I have an irrational fear of bunk beds. I’m terrified to sleep on the bottom bunk because what if the screws decided to come loose up top and the top bunk falls on me! I don’t want to be squished to death! Bunk beds overall just don’t work for me because I’m scared to sleep on the top bunk because what if I roll over and fall to my death. It seems like a lose, lose situation to me.
Today Sara joined us live on the air but here is the e-mail she sent us:
Yi! One of my close friends is getting married next month. The only problem is I am unsure if I should attend the wedding. I do not feel comfortable supporting her decision to get married because she has cheated on her fiancé several times. Once last summer while we were all on a girls weekend, then she had a 6-week affair during an out of town work training, and just last weekend attempted to cheat a 3rd time while on a business trip but thankfully the man turned her down. What makes it even more awkward is that she does not talk about it, and acts as if it isn't happening. Last summer we were staying with 2 other girls in a beach house when she brought the guy home, so we all witnessed the affair. The next day on the beach she pulled out her bride magazine and was asking our opinion as if nothing happened. She does not cheat because she does not love her fiancé or is unsatisfied; she cheats because she is totally insecure and is in constant need of a male's attention. Should I tell her I think the marriage is a bad idea, or do I lie and say I can't get off work for the wedding? Either way if I don't attend, our other 4 close friends will be suspicious as to why I am absent. Any advice will help! Sara
If Steve was in Sara’s position, he would be along the line of her friends. He would show up, drink the booze, eat the food and just deal with it. Slacker knows much of us don’t have much of a moral fiber and honestly, he would probably do the same thing Steve mentioned, but if you feel so strongly about something and can’t pretend like everything is okay, what do you do?
If I was Sara, I would probably do the same thing…See if I can get people to agree with me and form this force field where I won’t lose any friends in the process if I go through with the situation. However, if it’s going to create too much drama and you still love your friend, then I don’t think it’s worth going through. In a sense, I would say just butt out. It’s not your problem, but if I was getting cheated on and his friends knew and didn’t tell him to tell me, I would be pretty upset to know that I went through with a marriage that could have been stopped. This is a tough situation. I want to tell Sara not to go, but I can’t…
Today, Annie and Tony joined us live on the air for another Great Mate Debate.
Annie and Tony have a 17-year-old daughter and for the last two summers she has gone to San Diego and stayed with Tony’s sister. However, this year Annie does not want her daughter to go to this summer because Tony’s sister has decided to lead a lifestyle that she doesn’t approve of. She has let everyone know she is a lesbian. Annie is very conservative and lives a Christian lifestyle, so she doesn’t want to expose her daughter to it at such an impressionable age. Tony doesn’t see the problem. If she is a lesbian, she has been for the last two summer and their daughter is about to go to college so she’s going to be exposed to it either way. Tony believes Annie see’s being a lesbian as some kind of common cold that’s going to rub off on their daughter and that’s clearly not the case.
What do you think? Whose side are you on?
I am on Tony’s side with this one. I believe with that he said that if she is a lesbian, she has been for the last two summers and it’s not a big deal. We all lead different lifestyles and we should learn to grow, accept and love one another! I say they should let their daughter go to San Diego and have some fun!
As a waitress you mostly get criticism from your manager but in this case this waitress was left a note on a napkin from the people she just served about how she should treat the people she is waiting on. For the tip they left two cents.
Slacker and Steve say they tip really well, even if they the waiter is horrible. Steve thinks the note is fine. He knows everyone has a problem at work but you shouldn’t be making your guests like they are the problem. The guys would rather have the wait staff blame it on the kitchen or something. If the wait staff was that bad the manager would probably let them go.
I think the people should have left a little more money but I think the note is fine. Her job was to be a waitress so if you don’t like doing it then don’t do that job. I know some people can be hard to wait on but it is still you job. If I have a bad waiter I will tip them less but I give them more than two cents.
A retired Marine wrote a book about his encounter with a UFO over Pensacola, Florida that happened 40 years ago. In 1975 he was piloting a combat trainer and utility aircraft with a crew of five. They saw a round solid object in the sky that wasn’t on the radar, so they flew up underneath it to get a closer look. After a few minutes it took off into the horizon. After landing he filed a report but never heard anything back.
Slacker and Steve both have major respect for people in the military. Steve thinks he did see something that he couldn’t explain because it is called a UFO for a reason, which means an unidentified flying object. Slacker says the alien’s technology is so advanced for us that is why we have no proof. Steve wants to know why the lights on the UFO are always red?
I have a hard time believing in UFOs. I never have and I think it is the silliest thing ever. I want proof, and not some far away picture. Plus I would think by now after all these sightings over hundreds of years they would really make their presence known. I don’t know maybe this guy really did see one but why did it take so long for him to talk about it and I still want some real proof.
She has an ex boyfriend from college that didn’t work out and decided to be friends. Amy is now married and she said her husband is a very jealous person. She started talking to her ex from college and they have had lunch a few times. She says nothing is going on that it really is just old friends catching up. Her friends know and they told her that it needs to end.
Slacker says if she isn’t doing anything wrong then she wouldn’t have a problem telling her husband. He says the fact that she hasn’t told him yet still seems like your hiding something, and if you have to deceive your spouse then you shouldn’t be doing it. Slacker would want his wife to tell him right away, and would lose respect and trust for her if she kept something like that from him. Steve says even if she stops seeing him, her friends still know and it might get to her husband, which would be worse. They say one of them wants more than just a friendship.
I think she should have been honest from the beginning and should still tell her husband. I could never keep something like this from my boyfriend. I trust him and he trusts me so why would I want to ruin that. I agree with the guys, Amy keeping it from her husband it does seem like she is hiding something.
Do you think she should listen to her friends and stop hanging out with her ex behind her husband’s back?
According to a study, when a long term relationship ends the average adult will lose eight friends. The study surveyed 2,000 people who just ended a long relationship. Of that two thirds of them had mutual friends with their ex and lost an average of eight friends. Also one in ten said that their friends were so feed up that they stopped talking to them and their ex, because they didn’t want to take sides.
Slacker had to let go of LoDo because his ex wife was always down there and just bought an apartment there. It is not like they sat down and set rules up but he didn’t want to run into her. Some of their mutual friends picked sides and shocking some of her coworkers picked to stay friends with him. They had a dog together and it was weird to him that she didn’t say goodbye to the dog or anything. If he divorced his wife now they would fight for this sushi place.
The longest relationship I have been in my adult life, so far, I am currently still in so I don’t really know if this happens. I am friends with my boyfriend’s friends but if we ended our relationship I would expect his friends to side with him. My high school relationship I was in, I was told I couldn’t date his friends. I stopped talking to him and his friends until one day I ran into one of his good friends, and we are still dating over two years later. His friend doesn’t talk to him anymore but we see him every once in a while. I can understand this happening but I was a little shocked to hear you lose around eight friends.
In a news story, health care officials are saying that letting your child side down a slide at the playground alone is safer than riding down with him or her on your lap. According to doctors, it’s a lot more common than you would think when a child comes in with a broken leg because of a sliding accident. The most common incident is when the child’s show catches on the side of the slide, which causes enough friction to break the child’s shin bone.
Yi ! My girlfriend makes a lot more money than I do, but won’t spend a dime on me because she says it’s the man's responsibility to provide and pay. She’s got expensive tastes too. Basically, she’s loaded, but it never crosses her mind to help me out. She’s an amazing looking woman. She always dresses well and looks great on my arm. It just hurts and annoys me that she never thinks to pay for anything. How can I get her to notice that I’m struggling, without the risk of being dumped?
I think there are a lot of little problems with this situation. One, he should not expect her to buy him the world just because she has a ton of money. Two, she needs to learn that in a relationship, you do pay for stuff, too. Three, it’s a different story if he’s truly struggling. If he usually pays for his bills and so forth and is a trustworthy boyfriend then I don’t see the problem in lending him some money. I mean it shouldn’t even be lending then…If you love the person…I think Eric needs to leave her if she’s not willing to help pay for things. It takes two people in a relationship and he just seems like a doormat.
Do you have a small task that you think you can perform better than anyone else?
Slacker is convinced he is the best power washer in the world and Steve thinks he is the best vacuumer.
I think I am the best person at dusting. I’m so ridiculous about it…If there’s one spec; I am going to get it! I actually get excited about dusting sometimes and taking everything off their shelves and putting the things back in their place when I’m finished knowing it’s all clean. It’s nice!