Yi! My boyfriend and I were having a night in and drinking some wine last week. After a few glasses, we started talking about kids. We both really want them when we get married, and I asked him what he would do if we couldn’t have them. His response was that maybe I should get a fertility test before we get married! I was really hurt…it made me feel like the only reason he is with me is to have his kids. Has anyone else ever been asked to do something like that before marriage? Should I do it?
I don’t necessarily think he is saying it to try and hurt her feelings and to me I don’t think it’s a rare question, so I do think she should get the test and not worry about it too much. Having kids and making a family is not a rare thing when it comes to marriage, so I think seeing whether you can or not is a good way of trying to plan out your future. If it’s something he needs so he can feel secure in, then it couldn’t hurt and maybe it’s a good thing to know in case you do find out that down the road you can’t have kids. Also, there are plenty of options when it comes down to it with adoption and so forth. In the end, I hope it all works out for you Ariel.