Candy need your help!
I love my husband, he is my best friend but we just don’t connect on an intimate level. I don’t want to lose him because I truly value our emotional connection, but I need something else too. I think I’ve decided that I’m going to have an affair to satisfy my needs. I need to feel wanted on that intimate level and I’m just not right now. I feel like if my needs are met elsewhere, I can be a better wife and improve our emotional connection so much. I actually read somewhere that divorce rates are much lower in countries where having an affair is not as frowned upon as it is here. I think there’s a reason for that. I just need to hear from one person that this will work. Can you guys help?
Slacker thinks Candy needs to talk to her husband and bounce this idea off of him. Not as an ultimatum, but a heart to heart. He doesn't like the fact that if 40 people are saying 'don't do it!' but one says 'go for it!' that she's going to do it! Steve says, if she's only needing one person to side with her... GET IT DONE CANDY!
Should she have the affair? Talk to her husband? What do you think she should do?
No matter which way you slice it, this is not a good idea. To me, there are fundamental aspects to any relationship that, if broken, you need to get out. But sex, or intimacy, those are areas that can be worked out! I have friends that are in happy relationships but the sex wasn't good. Instead of leaving the relationship, they went to a 'sex therapist' instead. And now... they couldn't be happier!! So, Candy, DON'T DO IT!!!
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