Yi! I’ve been seeing my girlfriend for eight months. I’m 26, she’s 38. I love her but we’ve got problems. After my girl got divorced, one of her male friends became a ‘friend with benefits’. She insists she stopped sleeping with him before I started seeing her. He still calls her and I overheard him asking if he could come over. We fight constantly about this and it’s starting to ruin our relationship. She says she would never cheat, but that doesn’t stop me from being suspicious. I’ve asked her to end the friendship because I’m worried they’ll sleep together again. Am I right to demand she stop seeing her friend or am I paranoid?
Slacker and Steve are both on the same side with this one. They know people are going to call in and say he is insecure, but to Slacker this is one instance in a relationship where the word forbidden can be used. He believes that once you’ve had relations with someone, you cant be just friends with them because there is always going to be that chance it’s a fall back position. Say they were to go out one night, got drunk, she was in a fight with Scott, and they were both comfortable with each other. Of course she could just fall back into having relations with him.
I have to side with Slacker and Steve on this. If they fight about it all the time, the guy has to go, but at the same time, it’s really easy to just say ok and then not. Personally, I think she is planning for the relationship not to work out and he should just end it before it gets any further.
What do you think? What advice do you have for Scott?