Yi boys! I’m in a relationship and I live with my boyfriend. My sister was recently cheated on so I’ve taken it upon myself to protect my relationship. If my boyfriend’s phone is lying around, I will scroll through his text messages. I don’t read every single one—I just make sure there are no weird numbers or anything inappropriate. We also have an app on our phones that will tell us if the security system has been armed or not. If I see that he has turned it on or off at a weird time I text him to ask what’s going on. (Little stuff like that) I’m really not a jealous person—I’ve just seen my sister and a lot of my girlfriends get cheated on by their boyfriends and I refuse to let myself become one of them. One friend told me I was spying and that I was crossing a line. I say, he’s a part of my life and I’m entitled to know that I’m still in a healthy relationship or not. I feel like my girlfriends could have saved themselves a lot of heartache if they would have done this, too. Am I the only woman that does this stuff?
I think Erin is going a little too far. I don't consider myself to be the jealous type either. If my wife's phone is near me and a text comes through, I'll peak to see who it is from. I think it is human nature to be curious and want to know what is happening around you, but Erin sounds like she is guarding herself way too heavily and taking this overboard. Although we are only getting one side of the story here, Erin failed to mention anything about her boyfriend giving her a reason to be doing the things she is. She never said he's cheated before, or he acts very strange with a certain female co-worker, etc. To me, it sounds like she has trust issues and is looking for some sort of evidence to not be in the relationship.
What do you think? Is Erin going too far or does a woman have the right to know every detail in her boyfriend/husband's life?