In today’s OPP, Paige doesn’t know if she should get married:
Yi…I got engaged in October and am planning to marry in May. My fiancé and I have agreed to sign a pre-nup. I make a lot more than him and always will. He's pushing hard for a spousal support clause, which is turning me off and causing me to have second thoughts about marrying him. I love him, but he lacks motivation, skills and drive. I have a feeling once we get married he may quit his job. I'm even more worried that if we divorce I'll be supporting him for a looooooooooong time. Am I crazy for thinking this way? If you were me would you call off the wedding or am I overreacting? Is the clause a dangerous red flag like I think it is? He says if I really love him I would include the clause.
This one is really tough for me. I can see his side of things, as well as her side of things. In my own life, I live it by happiness and not by money, but for a lot of people money buys happiness. If Paige is seeing red flags, then she obviously has no trust for her fiancé and doesn’t like the idea of combining their money. If she loves him, I would think it would be ok and can I just say, who thinks of themselves getting divorced before they even get married? I guess I just don’t think that way. He asking is just straight up odd though, almost like he just wants her money and then he’s going to bounce. Unfortunately, I can’t figure out this one, but I do think it needs to be discussed before they get married.