OPP: Should I Stay With Pregnant Girlfriend?
His girlfriend made a mistake and now wants his help dealing with it…and it’s something that could impact the rest of his life!
Yi! My girlfriend and I had a fight in late June. She hooked up with a guy and got pregnant following a one-night stand. We got back together before she found out she was pregnant. She wants us to raise the child. I love my girl, but am torn over what to do? HELP!
Slacker says they talked to this guy (who wishes to remain anonymous) and today's OPP sees this as an accident, like they need to just pick up the pieces and move on. He feels he needs to be the bigger man and raise the child as if it were his own, but he's genuinely torn. Steve can't believe this guy is even writing in, but points out that his relationship with the girlfriend is now permanently fractured. Even if he does take on the burden of this child, if they were to have a child together in the future, would the first child (his adopted child) at some point feel different or lesser than the second (his biological child)? What about when times get tough and he wants to jump ship...and can because it isn't really his kid? Basically, what Slacker and Steve boil it down to is this: is being with the person you love worth taking on a situation of this gravity?
This is a tricky one, and it's easy to make assumptions especially without all the details (how long they were together before they broke up, etc.). I think, as a few others on Facebook pointed out, if he really loves her and is committed to this relationship he will stay. Yes, at times it will be difficult, but if they are meant to be together then they will work it out. However, if he's really that torn then maybe it's a sign that he needs to end it. In short, if it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be and he needs to follow his instincts.
What would you do if you were put in our OPP's shoes? Would you be able to ask something this enormous of a guy?
Until next time,
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