OPP: Should I Move With Him?
Today’s OPP is faced with one of life’s hardest decisions…love or family? She came on the air to talk, but here is her letter:
Yi! My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half, and we have been living together for the last 6 months. He just landed the residency of his dreams in a hospital all the way across country. When he applied I told him that I would follow him wherever his career led him, but now that the move is upon us I'm having some doubts.
I love my job, everyone in my family is within an hour of my apartment, and my friends and my life are all here. But I really do love my boyfriend and I want to support him and his career. If I go with him, I need to find a job and new friends and a new life, but I will have him. If I choose to stay here I will lose him, but keep my comfortable life where I am. I am really confused – what should I do? Have you ever uprooted your life for a boyfriend? Are you happy you did it or do you regret the decision?
Thanks for the advice,
Steve says that Alexis should stay here because she hasn’t been away from her support system before. Steve also thinks that her boyfriend shouldn’t be forcing her in this situation. He seems to be jumping the fence by saying that she needs to become her own person, but at the same time needs to be with her support system. Slacker said he would never move unless his significant other found him a better gig than this (which is highly unlikely, because I won't be blogging for them).
This is an odd situation, because I would place myself in the shoes of the boyfriend. I have no problem moving away from my family (I'm out here instead of Iowa aren't I?) I would have no problem moving out here, although my girlfriend is much closer to her family. I feel like she would have a harder time being away from her family than I would. So even I'm stuck on this one...
What do think our OPP should do?
Keep it Classy,
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