OPP: Responsible For Cheating
“Yi! My husband just discovered I was having an affair. We're trying to work things out, but he says I'm 100% to blame. I completely disagree and I think he's partly to blame. I cheated because he never spends time with me and refused to address issues in our marriage. I needed someone to turn to because he wasn’t there. He’s just as much to blame as me, right?
Although Slacker says she’s 100% to blame, Slacker also believes that the blame could be put somewhat on the husband. He thinks the blame could be 80/20 because there are certain factors on the husband’s part that could have lead her to go find solace in someone else’s company. Steve thinks the blame should be an evenly cut 50/50.
What advice do you have?
I understand that her husband may have neglected his wife on an emotional level, but she’s the one who went out and cheated. She can’t funnel her guilt and throw it on him because there are other ways of getting what you need that don’t result in going outside of your marriage. In the end, her husband didn’t make her do anything and she needs to face her guilt.
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