Her only sibling is getting married and she won’t be a part of the wedding.
Yi! My brother and I are 5 years apart. We have always been close as it is just us 2 kids. He is getting married to a girl from California (where he has lived for the past 8 years). She also only has one sibling, a younger brother. She has decided to have her brother give her away, sing and play guitar in her wedding. When I asked what I would be doing in the wedding, she said, "Well, I haven't really thought about family yet." I said, "Well, you have since you just told us what your brother will be doing." Basically, I am not in the wedding party and I'm super hurt by this. If I was a guy, I'm sure I would be a groomsman, but because I'm his sister, and as she says she "barely knows me," I was not asked to be a bridesmaid.
I feel that I have a right to be upset and as my ONLY brother/sibling I have dreamt of his wedding day since he was a kid. I was visibly upset and crying when she broke the news, and she seemed unphased altogether about my feelings.
At this point, due to her lack of understanding the importance of family, I really want no relationship with her. My boyfriend and family say it is HER wedding so she can do as she pleases and no one is taking my side! Am I really wrong on this one?
I guess I just believe that if you are close with your brothers/sisters and especially if you only have ONE of them, they should be a part of your special day?
Steve asked if she could be in the pictures, right? Or do you have to be IN the wedding party for “those” pictures. Steve feels everyone’s relationship is getting off on the wrong foot!
Slacker stated you have to be in the wedding party and all matchy, matchy to be in “the” pictures. At least that’s how he remembers it before he got ostracized from his family due to the ‘incident’! He had 3 brothers, so of course they were groomsmen, he’s a dude. They are dudes. Easy-breezy! He also wants to go back to what he just discussed in the complaint corner. It’s his wedding, too. There is no wedding if there is no second participant! It’s not just HER wedding. Make her an usher. Slacker’s been an usher a bazillion times! There is a truck load of downside to being in a wedding!
Should she be in the wedding on any level?
Count your blessings Katie. If she’s being difficult now, she’ll always be difficult. Besides, what’s the rush? Maybe she’ll come to her senses sooner rather than later. If she doesn’t, she’s not your wife and she probably won’t be a good fit for your brother, either. It will all work itself out. You could always get her brother hammered before the ceremony and sit back and enjoy the ride…
Peace, Love and Good Happiness Stuff! – Ray The Intern