OPP: Move Daughter's Boyfriend In?
by Slacker And Steve
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posted Jun 25 2012 4:25PM
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Yi!!!
Today’s OPP comes from Jeanette…
Yi! My daughter is 28 and still living at home. She doesn't earn enough to buy her own place so she pays half of the mortgage. We get along well so it isn't a problem. Last year, she met a 22-year-old guy at a bar. The two are serious even though I can't stand him. I don't trust him. He's lazy and not very nice to her, but she can't see past him. The main problem is she wants him to move in with us. She says it'll give them the chance to save for a place of their own. I don't know what to do since she is paying her share...but my gut says NO! Help!
Jeanette
Steve says now that there are 3 people in the house, he has to pay up! Steve thinks this is getting to be like a refugee camp if the deadbeat dude is staying without paying. It’s a 'no lose' for Jeanette if she puts here foot down here and says no. Well, she loses a bit in the financial department, but she is helping the daughter, not the daughter helping her out. Steve’s thinks there are concessions you make when you move back home.
Slacker thinks that he can come over and stay the night, whenever. How many times is too many before you have to donate to the fund? Since it is her daughter, do you give up some of your right’s as a human being because you moved back in with your parents? Slacker says yes.
Does Jeanette still get a say as a parent or does she have to concede?
If she’s only paying half the note on the house, that is not exactly half of the bills. So my thought is this…Put your damn foot down, girl! It was your place to start. She’s 28. Later on, she’ll be thanking you for the decision, trust me. He may or may not work out. If you see this through, she’ll see through him in the end. I know this because he’ll have to find a way to pay his share if she’s moves out, based on your decision. Then it will be very obvious this guy is a sponge. Don’t regress, progress baby!
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