Yi--I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I don’t think he’s committed enough. He told me that he wants to get married and spend the rest of his life with me, but he wants to wait a few more years. I think we’ve been together long enough for him to show me some commitment, so if we’re not going to get married I want him to get a tattoo with my name. He told me he loves me but he won’t do it. I think if I have to wait to get married he can at least do it to prove that he’s not gonna leave me. I want him to do it to prove that he really means what he says. It’s not like I’m asking him to get it on his forehead. Don’t you think that a sign of commitment is not too much to ask for? Lynn
Steve brought up a great question for Slacker. Say he got a tattoo of his wife’s name, they had kids together and then he got a divorce and met a new girl. If the girlfriend asked him to remove his ex-wife’s name, would he do it? Slacker said if she died he would keep it on there to honor her, but if they just broke up, he wouldn’t mind removing it, even if they had kids together. If his kid’s names were on his body, he would never remove them.
Slacker’s wife did have a tattoo of a fire fighter symbol since her last husband was a fire fighter, but she went in and put a butterfly around it after they got a divorce.
I think Lynn is asking for too much here. There are other ways to prove he loves her without having to put her name on his body. Whether he has tattoos or not, it’s his body and he will have to live with it there for the rest of his life and I think it’s just rude to ask someone to do that to themselves when they’ve already said no. Just trust the guy! If you don’t, then there’s already something seeping around in your mind that the relationship is due to fail.