Yi! I live with my boyfriend and do the finances in our house. I was pouring over receipts last weekend and found one from a bar. My boyfriend bought drinks and roses. He didn't deny buying the roses and said he purchased them for a woman, who looked sad and who had just broken up with her boyfriend. This led to a HUGE fight. When I asked him why he never buys me flowers he said because I don't need them and am not sad. I said the flower purchase was cheating. He disagreed and now, we are not speaking. Is purchasing flowers for another woman considered cheating? Am I wrong in demanding an apology from my boyfriend? Is he worth keeping?
Slacker thinks it is a little weird that he would do that for another woman but he thinks that you don’t necessarily have to have relations for it to be cheating. Yet he doesn’t think it is cheating. They both want to know what she wants from him in the apology. Steve thinks it wasn’t his intention to cheat.
If my boyfriend did this I would be pretty upset. I am pretty shy while my boyfriend can go up and talk to anyone, but I am pretty sure he would never buy a girl flowers because she was sad. This just really doesn’t make sense to me why he would do this without other reasons. The flower thing is not really cheating but it does make me think that there is more to the story than she knows. I don’t know all the details of their relationship but if this is bugging her so much to the point where she can’t trust him she should just end the relationship. You need trust and I am sure he will do things like this again. If she wants to make the relationship work then she needs to talk to her boyfriend about this and hopefully things will work out.
Do you think this cheating? What do you think she should do?