OPP: Dumping Toxic Friends
“Yi Slacker and Steve,
I think I need to get rid of my best friend. She has become very rude and acts like she is upset with me all the time. It’s become a very toxic relationship. The problem is she has been my best friend forever. We’ve seen each other through every breakup, family problem, and snotty co-worker. I’ve shared every detail of my life with her and it will be more like losing a sister than a friend. But her attitude lately has gotten to a point where I’m finding myself avoiding her calls or hiding in my apartment to avoid her. I’ve asked her what’s wrong and she says nothing—and I honestly can’t figure it out. IS breaking up with her the best thing at this point?
Slacker thinks that friends should be a point of relief and when they become a point of stress and you dread to be around them there’s no reason to remain friends because it’s simply not working. Slacker and Steve both agree that “going ghost” is the easiest way to go about this, but since they’re both women there is bound to be some long, late-night arguments and discussions. They’re also in agreement to the fact that women sometimes have a more intimate relationship with their girlfriends as opposed to any other relationships they may have.
Should she “break up” with her BFF? How should she do it?
The fact that Laura is beginning to avoid talking to her friend is a giant sign that things need to change drastically between the two, or she needs to drop her like a bad habit. I know from experience that even considering letting go of someone who has been an important factor in your life is difficult to contemplate, but in the end she needs to fill her life with people her build her up and don’t cause unnecessary drama.
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