Candy is in a relationship rut. Her commanding, deadbeat boyfriend of 5 years lays around the house, drinks, and yells when she doesn’t have his dinner planned. However, she feels certain that he’s bound to change his act someday….
“Yi! My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. During that time he's been unemployed for at least 3 of them. When he's out of work he lays around and drinks, and then gets angry at me if I come home and don't have dinner planned. My friends and family constantly tell me that I need to leave him, but that's easier said than done. I'm 35 and I've already invested years in this relationship and dread the thought of starting over. Add to that, I know that he'll eventually get his act together and, when he does, he's assured me we'll get married and start a family. I'm ready to be a mom and need advice on how not to hate a man who is so selfishly unmotivated.
Slacker strongly believes that the “happily ever after” ending does not exist in this situation. There is no woman out there who has waded through all the BS and ended up with a prince who once was a lazy beast. They both agree that Candy has made the decision to stay with him but wants to find ways to cope with his selfish behavior so she doesn’t hate him, but Steve says it’s their job to shake her from this delusion because her currently decision, they feel, is a stupid one.
Should she stay or should she go?
I’ve heard of other people staying in bad relationships for other reasons: he has club level seats to every Nuggets game, the sex is really good, etc., but I’ve never heard of a woman putting up with such nonsense because she thinks he’ll change- on his own too- and they’ll get married and start a family. I think her biological clock is ticking directly into her ear because she wants to force something that in the back of her mind she knows is ridiculous… or she could be very delusional. Maybe, at 35, she needs to start over.
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