“Yi guys, love listening to the show. I have a serious problem and I don't know if I'm overplaying it or not. My ex, which I have the most amazing 2 1/2 year old daughter with, has been pushy trying to find a new boyfriend and has introduced my baby to a few different men. These “relationships” as she calls them only last for a few weeks. Well, this new boyfriend that she has been seeing for two months has posted facebook pics of my daughter, and the comment states that she is “daddy's little girl,” implying that he is my baby's dad. In my eyes this is wrong and my ex is showing that it is OK for my daughter to have these types of relationships. I confronted my ex about how angry this made me and the total lack of respect for me being the father, and the reply I got is that he has been around. I also found out she has my daughter calling him dad, which any sane person should know that is not ok. I would never have a girlfriend for 2 months and tell my baby this is mom. This is all really hard for me because I work over the road with my own business, so when I try to be there for my kid I get the same no I can't see her and then get blamed for not being there. Please help I don't know what to do. There is no reasoning with my ex. Am I acting stupid making this a big deal when it’s not?
Thank you guys so much
Slacker and Steve both fear for what this type of behavior could do to the daughter just because of how inappropriate and confusing it is. Slacker thinks that the mother is doing this to push Zach away and it makes his skin crawl… He can’t imagine his daughter looking up at another man and calling him “daddy.”
What advice do you have?
I think it’s extremely inappropriate because having this young child call everybody “daddy” is confusing and simply something a parent shouldn’t do. It’s selfish to try and replace your ex-husband and father of your child by blatantly disrespecting the situation by having her call some boyfriend “dad”… it’s especially unfair to the daughter.