OPP: $20K Lottery Ticket
by Slacker And Steve
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posted Apr 10 2012 6:34PM
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Yi!!
Today’s OPP came from Erica:
Yi! Apparently while doing takes with our tax lady, I found out my husband won a scratch off for $20,000. He failed to tell me we won anything. I only saw it on the form since we both go to meet her. He says he kept it from me because he said I would get upset if I didn't get my way with it or have any of it to play with. He spent it on paying off credit cards and for a vacation we took in December.
Basically he dictated where it was spent without my input. If the tables were turned he would have had a fit. But because he thought he was being so righteous with it, he's justified in his decision not to tell me which infuriates me. How does he know I wouldn't have wanted to do exactly what he did with the money? It's the lack of telling me that I'm more mad about.
Erica
For Slacker its about this…She would have the right to throw a fit if he went out to a strip club and wasted the money, but he used it correctly. What if it was a bonus he got from work? Would it have made a difference? What if he bought stock years ago, didn’t tell her and it went down over the years? Steve thinks although he may have done the right thing with the money, he also did the wrong thing by not telling her because couples should tell each other everything.
Slacker says a marriage is a series of battles and you have to learn to pick the battle you want to fight. Is it worth digging your heels in on this one? What if it turns into, what else are you hiding?
Do you think she has the right to be upset?
Ok, if I was in Erica’s shoes, I would be upset for maybe ten minutes and then I would have forgotten all about it. It would not be a fight I would dig my heels into because truthfully it comes off like her husband did the right thing. Not only did she get treated with a great vacation, but he also helped pay off debt so they could live a more comfortable life. I would give him a kiss on the cheek and say thank you.
Oddly enough, we have what we believe is an email from her husband and that still doesn’t change my opinion. Here is his letter:
You don't know my wife and her problem with money. When she has it it's gone faster than Myspace fell from this planet.
I avoided the "why can't I just spend a little bit of it and get some new clothes?"
I won the money and didn't even spend it on myself. The debt I paid off was created by her. Why not pay it off before spending more? There's no need for her to be mad just because I didn't tell her unless I spent it on hookers and beer. I did neither.
Now that she's badgering me about winning and not telling her I really wish I bought the beer.
She has no reason to be angry.
Jeff
What are your thoughts on all this now? Do you have any advice for Erica and Jeff? Who is right?
Peace. Love – Assistant Producer Stephanie
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