Yi! I hate to ruin Veteran's Day, but I am writing because I am conflicted about my future with my husband. He just returned home from active military duty overseas and admitted he had a one-night fling several months ago after he got drunk. He said he was stressed, lonely and things got out of hand. He was very honest and apologetic. My friends and family are urging me to leave my husband. I can't say that I agree with them. I am mad about his cheating, but understand how and why it happened. He's promised not to do it again and he never strayed before. Should I leave my husband or not?
Slacker doesn't think that it's right that Emily's husband cheated, but does being in the military make it less wrong? He's under circumstances that none of us could imagine. Maybe he just needed that release and because of his job, he should get a free pass. Steve doesn't think that all military men should just get a free pass because of what they do. Would it be condonable if the spouse at home cheated? The whole situation should be judged upon the person and the relationship.
I totally agree with Steve that it should be judged by the person, not by their being in the military. I think Emily should give her husband a second chance. If she understands why it happened and thinks that he was being honest and sincere, then why should her family's opinions give her any doubt? I say she should try to work through this with her husband and if things start to go downhill or if she starts having some doubts about his faithfulness, she should talk to him. He was honest with her to begin with, shouldn't that count for anything? If he cheats again then yes, I think she should leave him. He's talking like he just had a lapse in judgement and regrets every second of it. If this is really the case, then they can get over what happened in time and be happily married.
What do you think Emily should do?
Until Next Time, xoxo--Intern Elizabeth