Today’s Great Mate Debate involves a couple that is experiencing a tough situation…
Madison and Jacob are getting married soon and still have to make one final decision about the wedding…but no matter what they decide, one of their families is going to be upset.
Madison’s family wants a dry wedding. Completely dry! No cash bar, nothing. She says her parents are paying for the wedding and their wishes should be respected. They’re totally conservative. She gets it and she understands where her parents are coming from. She does want to remember the whole day and she’s also been to weddings where it’s been a bunch of lushes with the potential for disaster.
Jacob says that all their friends and his family expect to have fun and let loose and no alcohol will put a damper on the party. At any other special event, they toast and have a good time. He’s willing to pay for the party and the tab, even if it means getting a loan.
Steve’s makes the point that Jesus went to a wedding and turned water into wine! He also recalls that Jesus didn’t have to foot the bill.
Slacker made the point that if alcohol comes into play at all the family is going to pull out of the financial assistance all together. He thinks they could curb it and drink after the reception in the hotel room, a bar or whatever! At Slacker’s wedding, he had an open bar. If he had to do it again, he would definitely take advantage of additional funds if it meant no alcohol. Slacker makes the point that plenty of people will have flasks and stashes all over the place. People will be taking bathroom breaks or disappearing all the time and he thinks they’re screwed.
Whose side are you on?
I say suck it up! Have the wedding, make the reception short. Then have an after party for all of your friends and let them buy the two of you drinks. Tell them to save the registry items and cover the tab at the after party…To Slacker’s point, it is only a few hours out of one of the most precious days of your lives together. If you can’t agree to disagree this early in the marriage, find a shrink now or forever hold your peace.
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