Amanda and John adopted a little girl a year ago and she is now 2 years old. Amanda thinks that she should be able to continue to sleep in their bed to create that bond of mommy and daddy as well as show her that it is a safe place and that she is loved. Little Sylvia didn’t have a good start. John feels that the child needs to be shown structure in that this is your room and your bed and this is where you sleep. He feels that the child can still feel loved and know that mommy and daddy are not going anywhere from her own room. John also feels that this has and will continue to interfere with their intimate relationship and could ultimately lead to a failed marriage for them.
Slacker doesn’t really like it when his kids end up in his bed with him and his wife. It is not comfortable.
Steve said that he is getting the feeling that Amanda could take or leave the intimacy with her husband. Amanda is doing it for her not for her baby. John has been replaced and that could lead to him being missing from the picture in the future.
What is your opinion? Baby in your bed? Or not? What advice do you have for john and Amanda?
My first daughter slept with us in our bed until she was three years old. She was our first and I had trouble telling her no when she said she was scarred. It was never where she started though we always encouraged her to sleep in her room. It did cause some issues with my ex and I, but eventually she wanted to stay in her own space.
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