Here's a list of things you should never say to women in public or private:
1. Shouldn't you be at home with that baby? When it comes to mothers, it's best to not judge the parenting style of a complete stranger.
2. Are you sure you should be drinking that glass of wine while you're pregnant? Okay, we've all heard of the dangers of drinking while pregnant, but that doesn't mean it's up to us to try and educate a woman carrying an extra person around.
3. Are you on your period or something? Belittling a woman's feelings while also belittling the actual issues that come during menstruation is a good way to come across like an insensitive jerk.
4. Why don't you put them away? Women have this weird thing where they don't like people to tell them what to do with their own body parts.
5. What's your bra size? This isn't a sexy question, a woman can tell you're staring at her breasts she doesn't need you to call further attention to it.
6. What are you doing here? If she's there it's because she has just as much right as you do to be there.
Slacker said don’t ever, ever, ever tell anyone how to parent! When men talk about a woman’s time of the month there is no way to say it without sounding like they are belittling the woman. Slacker said that he has gone to the “you’re on your time of the month” level with his wife.
Steve said his was mom yelling at him and his friend asked him what was going on and he replied “My mom is yelling at me she must be on the ____!” He turned around and is mom heard him and knocked him out. Don’t say that!
Little D said to his wife, “Can’t you do it your only staying home with the baby today?”
Help us grow the list of things you should not say to a woman! What should never be said to a woman?
I was moving into a new place. My boyfriend helped me a bit here and there but most of it was all me. I invited him over one night and he said “I’ll come over if we don’t have to move anything otherwise I will wait till later when you are done to “spend the night” with you.” I replied, “It’s pretty sad that my ex-husband is willing to help me lift a few heavy items to help me out but me boyfriend won’t even keep me company!” That was true.
A mailman saved the life of one of his customers in Coconut Grove, Florida . The man was delivering mail when heard a customer he has known for 10-years, screaming for help. The door was door open so he went into the home and called 911. He remained with the woman and was coached by paramedics on the phone until Fire Rescue arrived. The woman was taken to a local hospital. The woman survived and the mailman's actions are being credited with preventing her from having a fatal heart attack.
A Detroit mailman saved a woman's house from burning down while he was on his route. He saw smoke coming from her home and ran into it to see if anyone was inside. He grabbed a garden house from outside, hooked it up, took it inside, and started spraying the fire. He held it down until the real firefighters showed up. He then picked his mail bag back up and finished his route as though nothing had happened.
Slacker thinks sometimes Steve has bended the rules to help himself. But he is upset that Steve is not approving of others helping those around them.
Steve thinks that both mailmen should be fired because they should not have entered the premises. Technically they should be fired because they are going against policies. Let them be heroes to everyone else but they should be fired.
If you have been saved or have ever come to someone else’s rescue we want to hear the story! What is your greatest hero story?
I am a girl in her late 20's and I've never had a boyfriend. I went out with one guy for 2 months, and there have been a few others since then, but I never get past the first or second date. I would sleep with them and they would never call again. I used to think to keep a guy you need to sleep with them, now I'm almost 30 and know that's not the case. I have lost 35 pounds and am ready to meet my first real boyfriend. I am on many different dating sites and I put myself out there, but I can't seem to meet anyone. I give out my number and never get calls. My friends get hit on in bars--I do not. I feel like now that I'm ready to settle down no one wants me. I haven't been on a "real" date and I wouldn't know how to act. I feel like the clock is running out being close to 30.
I feel hopeless. I hope someone else has been in this place. I'm starting to lose the confidence I had, and I know it's not me. I am amazing and I know that. Thanks for any advice I can get!
Slacker thinks that Candy is still carrying around the old Candy. Where does confidence come from? You either have confidence or you don’t or you have to get it from someone else. Getting it from someone else is not really true confidence and they can take it back. If you are ever really going to online dating be true to who you really are don’t fake it.
Steve says if striking up a conversation with a woman he can tell if she has self confidence issues in the past. Guys can tell right away if the girl is wanting a serious relationship or is desperate. That is not an attractive quality. She needs a better support system through friends.
She needs your help. What do you think she should do?
If you don't have confidence in yourself you attract the wrong kind of people. She needs to find good friends to help her out in everyday situations so she knows how to deal. Stop searching so hard for a man just go do the things you love and let it happen naturally.
Kim says he insists on letting their child Connor get away with murder! She just wants a clean house for her and her family to live in. Even before Connor came along she likes things to be in its place it allows her to relax. She needs to keep up the house all day or it gets to be too much since he pulls stuff out all over the house. She feels she is giving Connor structure so he learns how to clean up after himself.
Kyle says she is a neat freak and doesn’t let Connor make messes ever! He needs to be a kid let him make messes sometimes. She is stifling his creativity. She immediately picks up his Legos or his coloring book or PlayDo as soon as he walks away before he has a chance to explore what he can build. She should leave it for a bit so if he wants to come back to it he can. He appreciates her keeping up the house but he wants his kid to be able to express himself as a kid. He wants her to leave Connor’s messes to stay for an hour before picking it up. The house does not have to be perfect all the time.
Slacker‘s wife is from Brazil so she cleans up immediately because when she was young there was not enough room to leave messes. When he was a kid he used to build stuff over the course of a week or a month. He would leave it and come back to it later. Slacker thinks Kim is right you can’t allow the messes to pile up and soon you will be living in filth. The mess is part of being a kid.
Steve hates messes so he agrees with Kim. Steve says that he and Kim are kindred spirits. Teach your kids to be creative but when it is done you have to put it back. They should have an area for the child can get messy so that he can play. If Kim is tearing apart Lego projects, that’s not cool. If you can’t handle messes then kids should have been the last thing on your list because that is what they do.
Whose side are you on? What should they do?
Kids should be allowed to keep their Legos out or their puzzles etc. In their room away from everyone else’s living space should not be a problem. You don’t want your kids to grow up slobs either. I think it is great that Connor has two parents that are passionate about both sides. Kim and Kyle need a compromise like letting the art stuff stay out longer or maybe designate him a special area that only gets cleaned up once a day so he is free to do his thing and the whole house isn’t a mess for Kim’s sake.
Dr. Conrad Murray was released from jail yesterday. A cameraman followed him to In & Out Burger. That was his first meal after getting out of jail. Survey says that many say their favorite restaurant would be their first stop too.
Slacker said he would go to whole foods and get fruit like mango or raspberries something fresh. For sure would want Sushi. Thanksgiving food would be something that he would want the turkey and gravy all of that yummy comfort food.
Steve respects Conrad’s choice. Steve loves cafeteria food so he would want to take a to-go box from the jail. Legit boxed and canned food or fast food. Or his creation the egg tuna salad sandwich can of orange crush and a bag of Frito’s.
Little D says he is addicted to Philly Cheese Steak Eggrolls with sweet and sour sauce. At a Mexican restaurant in Dallas he had a sweet tea that he has been craving ever since even though he hates sweet tea.
What would your first stop out of jail or right off an island be?
I agree with slacker I would want sushi with a big pitcher of hot Saki. Or a big plate of my mom’s lasagna with a single malt to wash it down.
There is a 23 year old penniless woman in Toronto that wants to eat at all the fancy restaurants in the area. So she has advertised on dating sites about taking her out on a date. She doesn’t care who it is that takes her she just wants to go to all of her list of 50+ food stops.
A man in Colorado feared that his wife of 25 years may be a gold-digger so he takes his 500,000 in life savings and turned it into gold. He hid it behind a dumpster. The gold was then gone when he returned to get it. Now he has no money at all.
Slacker says that the man’s wife would not have been with him for 25 years if she was a Gold-Digger. It is the woman’s fault because they allow them to give them these extravagant gifts and only date them if they have money. Although, men can say NO.
Steve says that guys let themselves get dug. Men are using these women to get what they want. It is the man’s fault because they just throw things at you. If they throw themselves out there then he deserves what he gets.
Have you crossed over? You're more than a gold-digger...you're a diamond digger! What is your worst Diamond-Digging story?
I have had men offer me a nice house and a car and an easy life where I would no longer have to work etc. All they wanted in return is that I marry them and or date them and all the benefits that come with that. Unfortunately, I have a conscience and was not attracted to these men so I had to turn them down. Men that don’t have good looks or natural finesse often use money as a pick-up line to their advantage. So why would a woman not take them up on that offer if that is what they are selling.
My husband and I had some friends over a couple of nights ago. They showed up to the house with two relatively nice bottles of wine. Because it was a special occasion for our friends, I suggested we first open a bottle of our wine to celebrate. Of course one bottle turned into many and we never opened the wine they brought. As they were leaving at the end of the night, she picked up their wine and thanked us for a fun evening. She took the wine back home with her! I told my husband that it was beyond rude and we won't be having them over again. He thinks I'm being outrageous. What do you think? Is it appropriate to take the wine back home?
Slacker says that the rules of etiquette do not always apply to real life. Slacker has had many people come over for parties and bring bad beer and then drink his good beer while at the party then leave taking their bad beer with them. If they are feeding you and or serving drinks hosting you at an event then they should be given the wine.
Steve asks why did you bring the wine to the party was it meant to be drank or was it a gift? If there is a bow on it or a bag then it is definitely a gift and should be left for the host. If you go to a party you should bring what you are going to drink don’t bring the cheap stuff and then drink the good stuff.
Was it rude? Should she let them know why they are not going to be invited again? What advice do you have for Julianna?
Ultimately they bought it they should be able to take it to drink at home if it did not get used. Maybe they thought the others were rude for never opening up their bottles. If you go to a party and you bring a bottle of wine at the end of the night I may suggest asking the host if they want to keep it. If not, then yeah, take it home you don’t want it to go to waste. I used to have parties at my place all the time and when people would bring their own drinks they would leave bottles all the time. Sometimes they would leave it and it would never get drank since there are some things I don’t like to drink.