The 5 o'clock phone call about secrets and lies brought to light the topic of escorts. With two of the phone calls involving someone keeping their time as an escort a secret, Slacker and Steve became curious. How many listeners out there are escorts? Or have known one? Bringing up the point that if it were between doing that and not being able to feed your kids, Slacker says that it would make sense that more people than anyone realizes have this secret. Several people called, some who have been doing it for years, and others who are considering doing it.
Have you ever been or known an escort? If push came to shove in supporting your children, would you even consider doing it?
Yi!
Previous marriages…kids…a felony record…we want to hear the secrets you’re keeping! Nobody is 100 percent truthful with the person they’re dating, or even married to. Beneath the surface there are plenty of lies lurking – both big and small.
-What’s the biggest secret you’ve ever kept from a partner? How long did you keep the secret? Did you eventually come clean with the news? Or …was your secret discovered?
-What sorts of stuff do you think you have to disclose immediately upon meeting somebody new? Previous marriages? Kids? Debt? A felony record?
-What’s the most awkward confession you’ve ever made to a significant other? Why did you confess? How did they take the news?
Slacker shares a story of a guy who had a child in an affair, paid child support, and never told his wife. It's been 18 years or so years and she still doesn't know. Whether it's your job not knowing that you didn't graduate college or your in-laws not knowing about your jail time, many callers came on the air willing to share their secrets (some definitely with VD, though others without).
As many people on Facebook pointed out, there is no VD on the internet, so continuing this conversation online may prove difficult. Not that I have any huge lies to hide, of course...but I am also not looking to put any secrets on display here! So instead I will do what I always do when I don't know what to say and look to Liz Lemon and her secrets...
Yi!
She wants to date a guy that she gets along with really well…but she’s not attracted to him at all!
Yi guys! There's this guy that is a friend of a friend, and I have started hanging out with him – strictly platonic, but I think my feelings are starting to change. He is absolutely not my type. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm not physically attracted to the guy, but there is something about him. His personality, his interests, his sense of humor, just his way of "being" makes me feel drawn to him, and I don't know how to handle it. I guess my question is, do looks matter in love? And if I decide to pursue something with a guy who I am not physically attracted to is the relationship doomed from the start? Any advice would be great!
Thanks,
Jennie
In this OPP, Slacker and Steve point out that if you have to ask if looks matter in love, then you should already know the answer. They also discuss how differently women would look at this situation versus how men would in terms of the importance of physical attraction in a relationship. Steve says that he has known a number of women whose personalities have attracted him to them as a FRIEND, but nothing more.
I think this is something that could be entirely dependent on the situation. Sometimes, as one caller pointed out, being attracted to someone's personality more so than their physical appearance is a lot more important in the long run. Not to be a total nerd, but I think they said it best on Doctor Who, "Sometimes you meet someone so beautiful and then you actually talk to them and five minutes later they're as dull as a brick? Then there's other people, when you meet them you think, 'Not bad. They're okay.' And then you get to know them...and they just turn into something so beautiful." Cheesy? Yes, very. But I think it still applies here!
How important do you think looks are to a relationship?
Yi!
Missy Franklin, from Regis High School here in Colorado, just won her first gold medal in the 100m backstroke. After being awarded the medal, while they played the national anthem, she mouthed the lyrics during most of it. Slacker says he most definitely would NOT sing along at ALL if he were to win a gold medal. If even one mistake in the lyrics was made within minutes there would be a viral video putting your slip-up on display for the world.
I don't think I would sing along, but I also don't know if I would really be in as paranoid a mindset as Slacker in the viral video of my lyrical mistake.
Senseless survey: Would you sing along during the national anthem if you won a gold medal?
Yi!
There comes a moment in your life when it suddenly hits you…”Wow! I’m an adult!” However, many 18-29 'adults' are not feeling like...'adults.' According to a national survey of more than 1,000 people ages 18-29:
Almost 60% say "adulthood will be more enjoyable than my life is now."
More than half (56%) say they often feel anxious; 33% often feel depressed; 65% say "this time of my life is full of uncertainty."
Yet 82% say "it still seems like anything is possible."
The survey (commissioned by Clark University in Worcester, Mass.) is part of an ongoing study of a relatively new life stage dubbed "emerging adulthood."
A research professor in psychology at Clark University coined the term as a phase of human development for the period of late teens through the 20s. It began with Gen X (born in the mid-'60s through early 1980s) and has rippled through to the next generation, the Millennials.
The main contributing social forces are later ages for career, marriage and parenthood.
"None of those are going to go away in our lifetime."
Among survey findings:
• 52% have daily or almost daily contact with parents via text, e-mail, phone or in person.
• 34% say "my parents are more involved in my life than I really want them to be."
• 38% get little or no financial support from parents, but 16% do "frequently," 16% regularly; and 31% occasionally.
Neither Slacker nor Steve say they feel that much like adults on a daily basis, but Slacker references the first time he got hungry in his first apartment and there was no food, which gave him a bit of an adult wake-up call. Steve tells of his first apartment when he went to take a shower and there was no shower curtain, giving him that moment of "Oh, I have to take care of this stuff myself now...so I can either buy beer for tonight and be dirty or buy a shower curtain, stay in, and be clean."
I am only 19, so I really haven't had that "Whoa, I'm a grown up" moment just yet, but I've definitely had those instances where I can tell it's getting close. Most notably when I first left for college and my parents left my dorm, not to be seen again until Thanksgiving break. Being on my own for the first time definitely gave me that pang of the reality of independence and adulthood.
What caused you to really start feeling like an adult?
